Today while I was taking my dogs for a walk, it occurred to me that there are words that I perceive completely different than before my relationship with a disordered person. So here's a new game for us to play:
Name That Word
Name one word that has been irrevocably changed for you because of your relationship with an N/P.
My word is "charming".
I used to see "charming" as an attractive feature, and felt that if someone was charming, it was an attribute. Now, whenever I hear someone described as "charming" it sends up red flags all over the place for me. After dealing with the narc, "charming" equates to "manipulative" in my mind. It's a warning signal concerning the Persona Spell this "charming" person is casting onto their potential supply using their evil, disordered magic wand. I no longer see "charming" as an attribute. It's now in the same mental category for me as "snake oil".
What word has been irrevocably altered for you? I'd love to hear.