My new website

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#1 Mar 3 - 1PM

seancunningham

My new website

Hi All,

I've started a website for my own peace of mind. It's been helping me with my own recovery and has really raised my spirits, and made me feel better.

Please check it out. gaynarcissism.weebly.com

Thanks and God Bless,

Sean

#2 Sep 10 - 12AM

Jeff

Thanks

Thank you Sean for telling me my own story and reminding me of how predictable their evil is. Do these guys all do a course together somewhere? Hug Jeff

#3 Apr 3 - 10AM

ForeverLearning

Describing Narcissists

Sean, I found this information from your website very helpful, thank you so much. I would just add that maybe not all Narcissists have all of these traits 100%, due to the variety of Narcissists out there, but this is helpful for my brain in painting a big, broad picture of 'what makes them tick'. ************************ Tell Tale Traits of an Narcissist: Narcissists feel superior to everyone. Narcissists will shower you with attention at the beginning. Narcissists will mirror your happiness as they are incapable of feeling any. Narcissists replace attention with degradation. THERE IS NO "LOVE" WITH A NARCISSIST......... EVER!! Narcissists hate the words "I LOVE YOU" Narcissists equate love with weakness. Narcissists equate all emotions with weakness. Narcissists are more likely to philander and dump their partners. Narcissists are more interested in sexual pleasure than lasting initimacy. All narcissists fear intimacy. Narcissists are empty shells with no souls. Narcissists see your love as inferior. Narcissists doubt anyone could love them. Narcissists have only one commitment, their own well-being. Narcissists hate happiness & joy. Narcissists are aware of the cruelty they inflict on others.....but they don't care. Narcissists see you as an object.....no more, no less. Narcissists are angry people. Narcissists have never experienced love and never will. Narcissists will project their faults onto you. Narcissists hate routine and bore easily. Narcissists are calculating, they will plan their abandonment of you on your first meeting. Upon figuring out a narcissist, they will move on quickly and find another victim. Narcissists will delight in fooling their trusting victim. Narcissist will taunt and torment you even after you've abandoned them.

#4 Apr 2 - 9AM

narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)

keep it going!!...

as a gay man, Sean...i hope you will make mention on your site about predators like the psychonarc....who are totally asexual...but who seek to predatorize women and men... as many people who can need to build websites and blog about these monsters....they dwell in the shadows and need to be driven out into the bright light of day and exposed........

#5 Apr 1 - 6PM

seancunningham

Should I Continue?

Hi Everyone! Today and yesterday were actually great days. I woke up feeling better and have realized that I am stronger and wiser. Extra sleep has helped a great deal. I found that shutting my brain off when I get home from work has processed a lot of what happened. Also, eating balanced meals has made my thinking more focused. I lost 10 pounds thanks to N. Maybe the reason I was feeling so sad and lost was the lack of nourishment. I lost interest in food. N did a small number on me. I know I've said it before. But this site has helped me SO much. I think knowing I wasn't alone made me feel better. I just want to say that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We can't forget...but we can be empowered. I've reached the acceptance stage and beyond. I've stopped thinking about N for the most part. When my thoughts go in that direction, I try to think about something else. It's been working. I know what he is now, which is helping. I see him as mentally disabled. It's like playing with fire. We either learn or we get burned again. Believe me, I'm not playing holier than thou. I wrote this to tell the still grieving that there is hope. I was a bit scared that I'd never recover from it. I'm re-learning to be comfortable with my own company. My weight is coming back up. My frame of mind is getting healthier. Here's my question, do you think I should continue with the website? I was angry when I started it. I'm not angry anymore. I'm starting to make peace with what has happened. No, I don't forgive him. I pity him. Would it look as if I was being self indulgent if I continued with the website? Please give me your thoughts. Thanks, Sean

#6 Apr 1 - 9PM (Reply to #8)

ForeverLearning

Yes, Continue!!

Yes Sean, you must continue educating the gay community (along with the straight community) about Narcs. So little is known, and it is so dangerous to the victim, the need IS GREAT to keep this topic on the forefront. Good luck with all your endeavors in life and please continue to drop back in here, your contributions here are very special and irreplaceable. God bless and all the best.

#7 Apr 1 - 8PM (Reply to #7)

Barbara (not verified)

Sean

I wish you would continue Sean! You are educating so many people. I found this out with my own website about Psycho-Boy. Plus there are many people in the gay community who need this validation that its not them! Your blog is listed with our other member blogs in the right hand margin. Self-indulgent? not at all! ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims

#8 Mar 4 - 4PM

seancunningham

THANKS!!

Hi All, Just wanted to say thanks for all of your support. You have all been so great!! Thanks really isn't enough. Your stories and comments have been so comforting. I'm still getting through it....day by day. But, the best revenge we have is getting over them. They are broken people. My N was text book. I can't believe that he followed all of the traits to the letter. They want us to pine over them. I refuse. There are normal people out there. In fact, I'm ready to start dating again. I have hope for the future. We all need to. We all can do better. Don't shut down just because of a jerk. This was just a bad dress rehearsal. Chalk it up as being a learning experience. The situation was evil. I'm thankful I had the strength to say NO, I'm not putting up with this. Remember: THE BEST PREDICTOR OF FUTURE BEHAVIOR IS PAST BEHAVIOR. The next one he finds will go through the same crap we did...take comfort in that. Thanks !!

#9 Mar 4 - 5AM

narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)

you site

just read it......good for you for deciding to write about it......tell it like it is!!!!... My blog

#10 Mar 3 - 4PM

ForeverLearning

Thank You Sean, For Sharing

Thanks for sharing this Sean. I know this was an INCREDIBLY PAINFUL AND CONFUSING EXPERIENCE for you, as it is for all of us. I can most definite feel the deep, cutting pain you experienced, coming through in what you have written so far. I sympathize 100%, and am glad you are doing your part to educate others to this terrible phenomenon within the personality disorder spectrum, - Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Such a nasty affliction, and so harmful to the innocent bystanders (all of us here) swept up into it. I could have been spared alot of pain had I even heard and known of Narcissim, when I took Psychology back in college 20 years ago. They never made any mention of it. Therefore, I was completely naive and basically almost driven insane over the course of 14 years living and having children with one. The lying ('Gaslighting') is especially harmful to one's mental health. It's just awful. They look straight into your eyes and tell OUTRAGEOUS lies, without an ounce of remorse or regret. They feel JUSTIFIED in lying to whoever they please. Mainly to get what they want. Many times, what they want is sex without attachment. Yet they don't come clean up front about this, and the lies are what hurt so much. I hope you will continue to examine your experience and write more when you feel you are able. Thanks again for doing your share to educate others on this very DISHONEST and downright CRUEL and EVIL personality disorder, that shatters the lives of others. God bless and all the best to you.

#11 Mar 3 - 1PM

Barbara (not verified)

sean

good for you sean! I'll add it to our sites by members list! The percentage of narcissism in the gay community is no different than in the heterosexual community but I'm sure you'll hit on issues there that really need to be talked about. No matter what your orientation - spreading the word is so vital. ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims

#12 Mar 4 - 10AM (Reply to #2)

James (not verified)

sean

Thanks so much for starting your own site. One thing I try hard to point out to others is how pathological behavior knows no bounds. It will cross throughout society affecting both rich and poor. It's not about the sex of the people or the sexual orientation of that person. Not about boy girl woman or man. This dysfunctional pathological life is about a disorder that effect all who suffer from it, no matter who that person is or isn't.. Thanks again for your insight and I know my site did help me heal and learn very important lessons that sometimes can be easily forgotten but never should be.. http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/

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