might just of got the info i need to move on

Trust your instincts. The girl is not crazy. The child is most likely his. Read my story it is posted and you will see why I say this. My x wanted nothing to do with our baby and walked out completely and denied it until I made him take a DNA test and of course it was his.I read this and it makes me sick. Stay as far away from him as possible. My x did not even tell his own father about our son until our son was in high school. These are very bad men.

This is a crazy man! You are swimming in a riptide. I hope you keep your word and swim across the shore and land safly on shore. Hunter

My x told his now wife for the first year they were together that our son was not his. He is lying. Most likely he had a full blown relationship with this woman. My x wanted to marry me and then when I got pregnant abandoned me and started dating his now wife when I was 5 months pregnant. Trust me he is lying.Save yourself. It is now 20 years down the line, cheats on his wife all the time and has tried to cheat with me (the mother of his child, whom he denied was his ) while still married to her. Run...where there is smoke, there is definitely fire and you will get burned.

It was him and he is the father , i think this because the narc bends over backwards to secure his supply and he is not one to share a woman with anyone else that is his property , so its unlikely she is the type to sleep around ,a narc dosnt like that and youre narc is far to good at the brainwashing tatics ... i hate to say it but he is propbably stinging her along in the same way he is you , and i wouldnt be suprised is there are several woman he is doing that to . Rainbow you have gone NC before and even started dating again so you can do it again .. keep strong ... you have had a terrible shock .. big hugs .. xx

The ex-Psych prof HATED children, yet he always fantasized about impregnating a woman (I, for one) He couldn't stand it when I volunteered at a local elementary school, referring to the children as "snot-nosed urchins." Then, around the time I left NM, he got his butch live-in girlfriend pregnant. With twins (I've called them Luke&Leia ever since, because it was a boy&a girl, and like Obi-Wan I was disappointed with their father) For some reason, I felt it was poetic justice that 9 months after I left NM... without telling ANYONE... (I pulled the disappearing act on him after going NC)... his girlfriend was giving birth. The thought of those babies screaming, drooling, letting loose poopy diapers made the torments I loosed on him look mild in comparison. "A baby represents commitment&responsibility for another human being"-I read that the ex-P's parents moved in WITH HIM to raise his twins. There is ZERO mention of the ex-P when his twins are mentioned. It's as if the twins were orphaned, so the grandparents had to step in and raise them. "Poetic justice comes to mind"-Well, that explains why when I sent a short email to the ex-P congratulating him on the blessings of fatherhood... I got NOTHING. It was a sappy "oh, isn't it sweet God has blessed you with children?" sort of thing. Whether I was being sadistic and/or sentimental... you decide. "He's still going on about how he never wanted children"-I had a morbidly obese coworker who constantly complained about paying child support. He tried to evade doing it, but he failed.

The ex-Psych prof portrayed himself as Mr. Family Values, saying he was against artificial contraception&abortion. He was proud that he watched FOX News (this was in the late '90s, so this might've been before Glenn Beck,Bill O'Reilly&Sean Hannity), that he was NOT a "Massachusetts liberal", that he was opposed to homosexuality.... he made himself look as conservative as possible. But it's a very self-serving conservatism. Leo Tolstoy was against abortion&birth control, yet he had no problems with using his wife Sofia as a sex toy... and said that if a woman had 2 or 20 kids, they wouldn't be enough. In "War and Peace",Helene Kuragin is portrayed as evil because she doesn't want to bear her husband Pierre's children, and she ends up dying from a botched abortion. He was paranoid that women he had sex with were using contraception&getting abortions behind his back. He'd say how he wanted to get me pregnant, so see a "strong woman made vulnerable with pregnancy." He thought that if he impregnated me, I wouldn't leave him. So I didn't have sex with him... knowing he made a BIG DEAL of preferring his ladyloves Rosie Palms and Little Debbie. The ex-P, when I had him for freshman lab, was OBSESSED with what pregnant women ate. He was obsessed with Margie Profet, who had theories about women's diets and pregnancy. Eerily, Profet disappeared in Cambridge, Massachusetts back in '05 or '06;her case remains unsolved. At one point, one of my classmates asked him if he were pregnant. The ex-P OBVIOUSLY saw pregnancy as a form of control. It makes me puke thinking of how he must've treated his girlfriend when she was expecting twins... unless she was as much a Narc as him. He'd compare me to the character of Princess lisa in "War and Peace." Lisa is pregnant, afraid, suffering... instead of caring for her, her husband Prince Andrei Bolkonsky verbally abuses her, then abandons her to seek glory in battle. He tells his father Prince Nicholas that he grew tired of his wife once she got pregnant. The ex-P would compare me to Lisa when he verbally abused me... and say that like Prince Andrei, he'd kiss his father affectionately but kiss my hand like a stranger.

What I don't get though is why they don't wear a condom. yes, maybe it's all because they can't have an erection that well. Mine was so weird and contradictory on the subject. 1) He appeared to love kids (spent lots of time with his nieces) 2) Wanted to know very early on if I wanted to have kids (I am 38). Since I am still leaning towards not wanting any I was vague in my response and said I wasn't sure 3) He said he wanted kids but before that he wanted to be in a relationship for 2-3 years (like that's ever going to happen) 4) When we had sex I asked him if he wasn't going to use a condom to which he replied "Aren't you on birth control any longer?" I had never discussed the matter with him so I was a bit surprised he knew I was on the pill. He claimed he had seen it in my toiletry bag in full display while we were on vacation. I KNOW for a fact I was keeping it there but hidden, so he must have looked through the bag and lied to me about it 5) He would NOT understand that I insisted on a condom (becoming pregnant is one thing but catching a disease from somebody who has new girlfriends every 2-3 months is another). The first time I insisted on it he ended up using one, the second time he didn't have any, so I actually dug one up from I don't know when and where but that's when he started crying about his ex. NOW I am wondering if maybe he just wanted to hide the fact he couldn't get an erection, although I really didn't notice anything. FREAKS.