Maybe he has changed...

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#1 Nov 19 - 10AM
kevsmart
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Maybe he has changed...

Is what a friend of mine said to me today when I was talking about how much it hurt that he married his partner, and while we were together, he told me he didn't believe in marriage, gay or straight, and that he felt that maybe we just weren't meant to be with one person our entire lives...

That was five years ago...

My friend said that perhaps now that he's older and moved on, he's changed... now he wants to be committed (with me he always talked about having an open relationship.)

When we were together, I held him up while his mother was dying...he left me a year after. My friend said that may have been so traumatic for him, that he needed to move on and heal with someone else...I wanted him to heal with me! The one who was there for him...

I remember telling him that after we broke up that "I had found the one...I was done looking..." His response "I don' think I'll ever be done..." After spending three years with me and telling me early on that he never felt closer to anyone and that he wanted to spend his life with me...he left....moved on... and is NOW MARRIED!!!

I am hurting so badly...so confused.

What did I do to change his feelings towards me? Am I wrong about him being a NARC? Do NARCS (especially GAY one's get married???) I thought they were commitment phobes...or is my friend right? Did he change and become the person I wanted him to be when we were together? Why is this other guy having the life I dreamed of having and worked so hard to have???

Why was I thrown away like garbage...and forgotten? Like I don't even exist???

Nov 25 - 4PM
Sickofhim
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Four words sum this up: they

Nov 21 - 10AM
misshymers
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I'm going to be blunt.. I am

Nov 21 - 9AM
Used
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kev

Nov 20 - 4PM
rosedewittbukater
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Wake up Call Kevsmart

Nov 19 - 5PM
Deidre99
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what makes you think he's

Nov 20 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
rosedewittbukater
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Yup Dee

Nov 20 - 3AM (Reply to #5)
onwithmylife
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Deidre 99

Nov 20 - 4AM (Reply to #6)
Deidre99
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I was once one of them! Very

Nov 19 - 1PM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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KS

Nov 19 - 11AM
unbreakable
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we're all replaceable/recycleable!

Nov 19 - 11AM
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Yeah i heard that line too...