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#1 Sep 25 - 6AM
grossot
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material obsession

Some of you know that My N locked me out of our home and refused to let me have my things. Well when I finally threatened to take the value of the possessions after he had them appraised he put some junk in a pile near the trash in the garage and called it mine.
My parents went and got the junk and I've finally gone through it. Here's what I was given:

Old christmas wrapping paper

Handmade ceramic nativity scene (made by his gmother)

Artwork and cards to her dad from our daughter

Christmas stockings

Drawings and notes from his young neices and nephew to him

Every professional photo we've ever had taken of our daughter (except the ones with him in it)

Several large garbage bags of clothes I had set aside for good-will

My Great gfathers dresser - broken

My jewelery stand - broken

My old college text books complete with dust and cobwebs

All wedding photos (bent and crumbled)

All family photo albums with pictures of daughter

I noticed he kept the full length mirror I brought into the marriage.

Sep 25 - 4PM
grossot
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good for your brother

That's awesome that he stuck up for you when your mom was doting on him. ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled

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Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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yes I know

of course then I was accused of "twisting his mind against her" LOL he's a little Nish but he's basically a very decent man. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Sep 25 - 7AM
Cgrl
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possessions

Two days before he abandoned me he sat at the kitchen table and cried. He told me he had every kitchen amenity, all the gadgets he wanted including a 32 inch TV. He cried over this, looked over at me and said-"we have a big bed". My reaction- I just sat there. I could not believe what he was crying over. I told him I would love him forever. Stupid me, I thought my loving him would make him see that given time we would have things too As our relationship moved forward. What an assclown I see he is now. When he came to pick up one duffle bag of clothing he looked at me and said- "the place I'm staying at is really big". My god I thought to myself. You are with strangers. Just goes to show what they are and what's important. Never again.
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
NanC (not verified)
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My xN bought our daughter a

My xN bought our daughter a puppy and told her that was her dog & no one could take it from her. He messed with the dog more than he did me or the kids. When he left, he took her dog with him ! She cried, she'd wake up in the middle of the night crying for that dog. I called him & begged him to bring back her dog & he said, "you want everthing don't you?!!!" It was like, u can have the kids & I'll have the dog. He wouldn't budge even after our child pleaded with him. My husband bought her another dog. Poor dog, now he has to put up his abuse! His last x gf said that he would abuse that dog & swing him across the room! How sad! The strange thing is, he would call the dog "son", "come here, son". I've never heard a human call their pet " son" or "daughter"...weird!
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
NanC (not verified)
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My xN bought our daughter a

My xN bought our daughter a puppy and told her that was her dog & no one could take it from her. He messed with the dog more than he did me or the kids. When he left, he took her dog with him ! She cried, she'd wake up in the middle of the night crying for that dog. I called him & begged him to bring back her dog & he said, "you want everthing don't you?!!!" It was like, u can have the kids & I'll have the dog. He wouldn't budge even after our child pleaded with him. My husband bought her another dog. Poor dog, now he has to put up his abuse! His last x gf said that he would abuse that dog & swing him across the room! How sad! The strange thing is, he would call the dog "son", "come here, son". I've never heard a human call their pet " son" or "daughter"...weird!
Sep 25 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
dolce (not verified)
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Not surprising. When I told

Not surprising. When I told my N I had gotten a little bit of money and asks would he like a trip to his home country to see his children or a big screen TV, he chose the big screen TV! But then he went on and on about how much he missed his children and now uses this as an excuse as to why he abandoned me. (to be the hero who went back to his grown children). Then he wanted to come back to me because his children wanted nothing to do with him. ~Free to Be~
Sep 25 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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their values are warped

My NMother had a big deal with MATERIAL POSSESSIONS. 1. when I was 7 I had been hospitalized with German Measles. I almost died. When I went back to school I couldn't see the board. I told my NMom I needed glasses - she RAGED at me that I only wanted them because my friends had them. In those days they had a full nurses' office at school. The school had my eyes examined - they called my mother and said I NEEDED glasses. I got them - with a lot of rage attached for not being PERFECT. 2. I was sick as a kids. One time I felt naseauted and got up from the dinner table to head to the bathroom. I didn't make it - I threw up and passed out. When I came to my NMother was standing over me screaming "MY RUG!! MY BEAUTIFUL RUG!! YOU RUINED IT!" 3. When I moved to NYC I was in a teeny apt. She came to visit and raged and insulted me about the apt. I got the papers for her to look at how high prices were. Her comment? "You had these papers printed up special just to hurt me, didn't you?" 4. When exNH first moved into a condo, NMom came for a visit - she went on & on about how my brother (the Golden Child) had a big house (350 miles away in the middle of NOWHERE) and how POOR we must be to have just a condo. Our condo was worth 3x my brother's house. But we constantly got berated about "ONLY" having a condo until my brother finally told her off about it in front of me. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.