Love at First Sight

One of the big things I could never figure out was WHY did I want this guy at first sight? Before he spoke, before we communicated at all, I just knew I wanted him. And that NEVER happens to me, never.

On another site I found a link to an article: Why Are Narcissists so Charming at First Sight? Decoding the Narcissism–Popularity Link at Zero Acquaintance

Mitja D. Back
Johannes Gutenberg-University Mainz
Stefan C. Schmukle
Westfa¨lische Wilhelms-University Mu¨nster
Boris Egloff
Johannes Gutenberg-University Maine

"On the basis of a realistic behavioral approach, the authors showed that narcissists are popular at zero acquaintance and aimed to explain why this is the case. ...Three main findings were revealed: First, narcissism leads to popularity at first sight. Second, the aspects of narcissism that are most maladaptive in the long run (exploitativeness/entitlement) proved to be most attractive at zero acquaintance. Third, an examination of observable verbal and nonverbal behaviors as well as aspects of physical appearance provided an explanation for why narcissists are more popular at first sight.
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"At zero acquaintance, we do not have any direct information about the thoughts,
feelings, opinions, preferences, or the life stories of others. However, even first impressions offer some information about targets. Most important, at zero acquaintance the targets’ physical appearance and thin slices of their nonverbal and verbal behaviors are accessible. On the basis of our lens model approach, we expect that narcissists are indeed more popular at first sight because they produce physical, nonverbal, and verbal cues that are related to four generally valued aspects of targets: attractiveness, competence, interpersonal warmth, and humor..."

..."Results revealed an interpersonal advantage for narcissists at first sight: They were more liked. However, this narcissism–popularity link was not uniformly present for each of the narcissism facets. ...

People, for instance,who wore more colorful clothing, had more friendly facial expressions, exhibited straighter body posture, or spoke with more casual verbal expressions were immediately liked more...

...Results showed that the popularity of narcissists was indeed mediated by the flashiness and neatness of dress, the charming quality of facial expression, the self-assuredness of body movements, and the amount of expressed verbal humor..."

Ok, it was a really long article, and I could not link or mention another site that does not require payment for it. But it was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2010, Vol. 98, No. 1, 132-45. Also credited is 2010 American Psychological Association, 0022-3514/10/$12.00 DOI: 10.1037/a00163.38. I also have the entire article saved in PDF format.