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JustVicki's Story

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#1 Feb 1 - 11PM
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JustVicki's Story

My inner compass is going haywire! Narcissist?

I suffered through a horrible year with a Narcissist. I started therapy while I was with him and am still in therapy eight months after the breakup. But to those who ask "Will it get better?", the answer is MOST DEFINITELY!

I intended to take at least a year away from men to get myself pulled back together, but sometimes life has other plans for you. That is how my current situation began.

I was FB friends with this man. He is a very popular, well-known man in my community. We started communicating on FB (I initiated it one evening) and before I knew it, we were seeing each other. This is how the past four months have been:

We have gone out 3 times, our initial meeting, my birthday, and just for a while on New Years Eve. He goes out every night of the week, almost without exception, has for years. He is a creature of habit. He doesn't drink, but he loves to play TRIVIA at different bars and restaurants around town, is very active in our community and is pretty well-known.

He comes to my house twice per week. Like clockwork. We aren't always physical, but we are most of the time. He is very sweet to me, non-confrontational, and we both pledged to be monogamous. I could be going with other men, he says he had not had a physical relationship in 3-4 years, but he obviously loves the attention of younger ladies.

We are "older." I'm 55. He is in his 60's, well-to-do.

Even though he is sweet to me, I can't help think it isn't genuine. I think it is for sex. Period.

I worry that his being totally consumed with being around others, including people (women) half his age is a red-flag. Also, we don't "date.

He also has a daughter-like friend that he says he had a close relationship with years ago. She is much younger than I. He says that they are now just friends, but they share a dog from their days as a couple, a couple who he says never had sex.

I swear, I'm not making this up. My question was going to be, is this man a Narcissist, but after writing this down, I think my question should have been "Am I really this big of an idiot?" Yes, apparently. Any input would be appreciated.

Feb 12 - 1PM
Deidre99
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''surrogate daughter?''

Feb 10 - 7PM
JustVicki
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It's over

Feb 11 - 6PM (Reply to #33)
JustVicki
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Last Communication

Feb 12 - 10AM (Reply to #34)
spinning
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JV, you did

spinning

Feb 10 - 7PM (Reply to #32)
leslieisback
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Sorry, at least you can now

Feb 4 - 2PM
spinning
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Hi, JV, and sorry to

spinning

Feb 5 - 11AM (Reply to #30)
moving on finally
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Wow, I am so impressed and

Feb 4 - 10PM (Reply to #25)
JustVicki
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Sexy Girlfriend

Feb 5 - 10AM (Reply to #28)
Janie53
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Vicki

Feb 7 - 6AM (Reply to #29)
leslieisback
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I believe I too am a narc

Feb 5 - 10AM (Reply to #26)
spinning
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Good for you, JV, for

spinning

Feb 5 - 5PM (Reply to #27)
JustVicki
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You are great

Feb 2 - 5PM
murphyagnes (not verified)
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Confusion

Feb 2 - 10PM (Reply to #21)
JustVicki
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MurphyAgnes

Feb 3 - 5AM (Reply to #22)
Luv2bme
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He's doesn't care about you..

Feb 3 - 7PM (Reply to #23)
murphyagnes (not verified)
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Absolutely

Feb 2 - 3PM
Janie53
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Vicki

Feb 2 - 6AM
talktothehand
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JustVicki

Feb 2 - 4AM
Luv2bme
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In my opinion,

Feb 2 - 9PM (Reply to #17)
JustVicki
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You are right

Feb 2 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
JustVicki
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Confusion

Feb 7 - 7AM (Reply to #16)
Used
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Now to the good side of this

Feb 2 - 7PM (Reply to #12)
Janie53
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Vicki

Feb 2 - 9PM (Reply to #13)
JustVicki
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Narc Magnet

Feb 3 - 12AM (Reply to #14)
Luv2bme
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Fellow Magnet

Feb 3 - 1PM (Reply to #15)
JustVicki
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Your NH

Feb 2 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
Luv2bme
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Is this what you want?

Feb 2 - 11PM (Reply to #4)
JustVicki
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You are being honest

Feb 3 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
Luv2bme
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One more thing..

Feb 3 - 2AM (Reply to #6)
Luv2bme
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I forgot to mention..,