Justice through NC?

Throughout this whole journey with NC, it never really occurred to me, that justice can be found in it. We talk about ‘justice’ a lot having gone through the horrible effects of having relationships with narcs/psychopaths.

So…I wanted to share something, I thought could be of help. I have mentioned that he has been hoovering/baiting through one final friend, who still had my home phone. She left me a few vm msgs stating that the n was texting me, and why wasn’t I texting back? (I changed my cell number) Then, this escalated to him actually emailing me recently under an alias…complete with a happy thanksgiving email last week! To all of these contact attempts, I have NOT replied. Guess what? It’s effortless now. It’s like hearing about a stranger, or getting an email from the mail man. It is meaningless. (well I do think my mailman is sweet, so no offense to him) lol

And I no longer care what he thinks and all..BUT. For those who are struggling with NC. When you really commit to it. I MEAN REALLY COMMIT. A narc will perceive you as having the upper hand. It’s a strange occurrence, when you realize this. But, that is what is happening now, I think. He can’t believe he lost control. He thought for sure, I’d text him…wishing him a happy thanksgiving. He thought for sure I wouldn’t ignore him. Afterall, I am a softie. (or so he remembers me as this) But, when we go NC…we grow. And we emerge a stronger being. Perhaps, in that sense, we do have the upper hand. He doesn’t call any shots on me. He has no bearing in my life whatsoever. Unless I come here to chat about all this with all of you…I don’t think about him, much.

So when you’re wondering if there’s justice. There it is. STAY NC and you will not only gain a new you…you will have outsmarted a narc. That’s probably as close to justice as we might personally get. (I do believe there is justice in other ways, because narcs piss so many people off…only a matter of time before they eat karma pie) But…there is personal satisfaction in knowing…he can’t believe, he lost control. And by him frantically talking about me, and reaching out to me…it shows that he doesn’t do so well, when he lacks control.

Anyways…just my musings for the day. :=)