i bet everyone on this site is like me so many warning signs (red flags) but why didnt we see it.On my second date my ex narc she told me she had always been a bastard to men why didn't i RUN then i do get angry with myself on why i didn't.It was about 4 months into the relationship when she started to show her true colours speaking to me like dirt telling me i cant wear my glasses when i meet her friends cos i look like a geek why didn't i RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!
i didnt just see RED FLAGS and ignore them, i ignored all the people telling me what *HE WAS*, wouldnt listen to them and these were people he had known all his life...everyone warned me...i wouldnt listen to them, and i wouldnt listen to my gut instinct....so here i am on this board....but the diffrence now, i read everything on the board and register it....
IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN...good luck....
Hi Stones, i saw your post yesterday also and have been meaning to reply to you. First, welcome to this forum. We are all well meaning and good hearted people here.
Narcs are the same regardless of gender or nationality or social levels.
I am glad you are no longer in a r/s with that PDI woman.
It is shocking the way they treat us..but we have all endured utter crap. In fact, i am stuck in this marriage with the narc since 20+ terrifying years.
we all here have missed the red flags...we all have long blamed ourselves..that is before we reached this forum and Sam Vaknin's site. do visit http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/siteindex.html
Stay here. You will have many meaninful interactions here and you will understand the intrinsics of NPD.
WHY DIDN'T WE SEE IT
stones
Stones, Hiya!
thank you
Aceonelady