Just checking in again :)
Just checking in again :)
Hi everyone! I hope everyone is doing well, i've been on the forum a few times over the past months or so reading posts but haven't wrote or contributed anything myself. i come on here sometimes to almost remind myself of what i went through because it seems such a distant memory now. "forgive but don't forget" as the saying goes.
my last post was about how i had met a guy online and was considering a long distance relationship and how i was worried and looking for some opinions on here.
i heeded the advice and took my time to think about it and i flew over to see him another 2 times. he has booked 2 trips to see me and i booked another 2 to see him. we are monogamous and in an official relationship now but i'm still taking things slow. but things are still going really well and it's hard to tell when someone is good whether to accept it or be suspicious because of what we've been through. he definately has none of the red flags my narc had and we basically live together when visiting each other.
his good points keep reminding me of the narc's "good" points, the fake nice person he was. so that's why i get worried sometimes but it's like if we tell ourselves we deserve someone amazing and then we find someone amazing, it makes us suspicious. like from my (very close) observations of him he seems to be an empath, more so than me. he helps everyone, has a blood and organ donor card etc. his myers briggs personality type is INFJ for anyone familiar with that
i guess what i'm babbling on for is to ask how we tell the difference between a narc who is fake and a real nice person once we know how manipulative and convincing narcs can be? i feel a bit bad being suspicious of him when he hasn't done anything to make me suspicious?
also i want to take the opportunity to wish everyone a lovely peaceful and narc free Christmas :D
Ohh i am happy for you:)
It seems like he could very
aww hey Deidre, i hope all is
Owen, Long distance complicates things enormously.
i agree with everything
Owen
Thanks Janie :) Sometimes
This is a tough one....
HMH, Thanks for posting this description.
So pleased for you Owen
thanks snowflake :) and yea i