Just checking in again :)

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#1 Dec 10 - 6AM
owenjohnston
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Just checking in again :)

Hi everyone! I hope everyone is doing well, i've been on the forum a few times over the past months or so reading posts but haven't wrote or contributed anything myself. i come on here sometimes to almost remind myself of what i went through because it seems such a distant memory now. "forgive but don't forget" as the saying goes.

my last post was about how i had met a guy online and was considering a long distance relationship and how i was worried and looking for some opinions on here.

i heeded the advice and took my time to think about it and i flew over to see him another 2 times. he has booked 2 trips to see me and i booked another 2 to see him. we are monogamous and in an official relationship now but i'm still taking things slow. but things are still going really well and it's hard to tell when someone is good whether to accept it or be suspicious because of what we've been through. he definately has none of the red flags my narc had and we basically live together when visiting each other.

his good points keep reminding me of the narc's "good" points, the fake nice person he was. so that's why i get worried sometimes but it's like if we tell ourselves we deserve someone amazing and then we find someone amazing, it makes us suspicious. like from my (very close) observations of him he seems to be an empath, more so than me. he helps everyone, has a blood and organ donor card etc. his myers briggs personality type is INFJ for anyone familiar with that

i guess what i'm babbling on for is to ask how we tell the difference between a narc who is fake and a real nice person once we know how manipulative and convincing narcs can be? i feel a bit bad being suspicious of him when he hasn't done anything to make me suspicious?

also i want to take the opportunity to wish everyone a lovely peaceful and narc free Christmas :D

Dec 14 - 5PM
petite7heaven
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Ohh i am happy for you:)

Dec 12 - 9AM
Deidre99
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It seems like he could very

Dec 12 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
owenjohnston
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aww hey Deidre, i hope all is

Dec 11 - 8PM
done as dinner
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Owen, Long distance complicates things enormously.

Dec 12 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
owenjohnston
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i agree with everything

Dec 10 - 1PM
Janie53
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Owen

Dec 10 - 10PM (Reply to #6)
owenjohnston
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Thanks Janie :) Sometimes

Dec 10 - 8AM
HelpMeHeal
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This is a tough one....

Dec 11 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
done as dinner
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HMH, Thanks for posting this description.

Dec 12 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
Snowflake
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So pleased for you Owen

Dec 12 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
owenjohnston
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thanks snowflake :) and yea i