Jesse James The Narc

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#1 Nov 14 - 7PM
Kukla
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Jesse James The Narc

Apparently his lying and cheating caught up with him

This is what his ex-fiance Kat Von D had to say on FB today (Sandra Bullock was right to get rid of him).

Thank you, Jesse James.

Never have I felt so strong about True Love, than I do today. I believe in Love more than anything else, and more than ever before.

Today I encountered the 19th girl to add to the list of people Jesse cheated on me with during this last year.

I kept going back and forth in my mind as to what the best way would be for me to release and let go of any residual feelings remaining from that toxic relationship. All of this may sound petty or immature to some, but I assure you this is coming from a place of pure honesty and love.

There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people's ability to change for the better. Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible - even in the people who seem hopeless.

I still believe that, even if that change never occurs inside of him - because I see proof of change everyday - in others, and in myself.

I'm far from perfect, but am willing to examine myself, and my patterns of dysfunction, and then put in the work to better myself. It's a daily practice, but it’s working.

Sure, its easy to tell someone, "I told you so” especially if you're criticizing someone from the outside, but that attitude comes from a place called Ego, and not Love.

I know I deserve a big fat "I told you so,” from everyone, and wish I didn't have to say, "You all were more right than you'll ever know” but you were.

Not to worry, I've gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I've ever made, but learned so much from each of them.

Yes, I am pretty tired of getting mistaken for the girl who everyone believes to have broken up Jesse and Sandra's marriage, just because I have black hair and tattoos like that other gal. That does get a quite annoying at times, and it would be nice to not be associated with her, but that's trivial in the grand scheme of things.

I think it just made me sad today to imagine him still in that dark place - where seeking validation through the attention of women takes precedence over being a good father, a sincere friend, a better coworker, and a happy individual.

I tried my best to go through all of this without venting, or complaining, or fueling more tabloid mumbo jumbo - but this isn't about any of that.

This is about me making peace with myself, and forgiving myself for making some bad mistakes.

I don't want to sink into the feelings of regret, or resentment.

Because right now, for the first time in my life I have felt regret, (for someone like me, who's never felt that before, this is hard to say out loud).

Time is something you can never get back, and what we do with this very present moment is the most real thing we have. So if that's the lesson Jesse forced me to face and learn by all of this, than all I can say is Thank You.

It would be nice to move on now, and kindly thank you all in advance for your support, love, and positivity.

Life is far too grand to focus on the negative and put each other down.

Sending Love and Light to everyone, especially those who weren't always so kind,

Kat Von D

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Nov 15 - 7AM
Kukla
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What Jesse Said....

When the Narc got engaged to Kat Von D last year he went on Twitter and said this...all lies of course. I have never met anyone so kind and loving and committed to making the world a better place every day. My love for her is beyond description. So honored that she said 'yes.' Growing old with her is going to be a f----n' blast!" Riiiiiiight!
Nov 14 - 11PM
empath
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If they cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.

If they cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you. No exceptions.
Nov 14 - 10PM
empath
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If I knew then what I know now...

I'd have run like hell to get away from the N! Why oh why, when there are men like Jesse James out there who have a long and public track record of this kind of disgusting behavior...why is it that women will still give their hearts, spread their legs and facilitate more abuse? Oh wait...that has already been answered: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/special.shtml And I think what I said earlier applies here too...you cannot change a cheetah into a vegetarian, and there will always be a slower gazelle. Really pisses me off to see someone walk into relationshit with an N with their eyes wide open. Once you know better, and clearly Kat has been around enough celebrity narcissists to know better, it really is upsetting to see women perpetuate and enable this abuse by volunteering for it. How is it that it took 19 episodes of infidelity to make her "see"? I have such mixed emotions abut this...she knew better and she did it anyway, and i feel for her, because i know what that hurt feels like, as do all of us here. She should have tattooed a hazardous waste symbol on him while he slept.
Nov 14 - 9PM
brinamarie
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I know we've all been the

I know we've all been the "OW" w/ a PD but women need to collectively stop allowing this behavior.. Why did Kat think he would cheat on his WIFE numerous times but not her??? she's holier than thou?? screw her for thinking she was any better than Sandra... no one is better than anyone. lesson learned for her, and i'm glad. guess i'm one bitter biotch. oh well.
Nov 15 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
Susan32
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Narcissistic injury

When I learned that the ex-Psych prof was cheating on his girlfriend (albeit in an emotional way, he NEVER told me about her existence) with me, I went on to inflict some PURPOSEFUL narcissistic injuries. I went after his ego the same way a cougar goes for its prey's jugular. I NEVER knew about the ex-P's girlfriend. He NEVER mentioned her. He expected a three ring circus of having his girlfriend&I fighting over him. So I blithely stood by as the senior skit mocked him. I gladly recounted it to him the next day (he ran out during the scene that taunted him) Inflicting narcissistic injuries was my delight. I fed off his frustration. He WANTED a fight between his girlfriend and I... and he ended up being the "collateral damage." I loved the looks of frustration as I sang his girlfriend's praises. He wanted me to hate her as a rival. When he threw a fit after I congratulated him on being engaged, I BRAGGED about it. His biggest weakness was his fear of being ridiculed. He HATED being laughed at&humiliated. So I did precisely that. His weaknesses were my targets. I was the OW who came to see him as prey;nothing more. Not only did I NOT reward his behavior, I made some pain. And yes, I enjoyed it.
Nov 14 - 9PM
brinamarie
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I know we've all been the

I know we've all been the "OW" w/ a PD but women need to collectively stop allowing this behavior.. Why did Kat think he would cheat on his WIFE numerous times but not her??? she's holier than thou?? screw her for thinking she was any better than Sandra... no one is better than anyone. lesson learned for her, and i'm glad. guess i'm one bitter biotch. oh well.
Nov 14 - 9PM
Hunter
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Hark, Hark Jesse James a

Hark, Hark Jesse James a tattooed Narc!! Yup!! Hunter
Nov 14 - 8PM
Sparrow
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So glad she see's him for

So glad she see's him for what he is, a narc. Thanks for posting this Kukla!
Nov 14 - 8PM
juliamarie
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I was going to start this topic

He is classic Narc. And proof that for most Narcs, there is no rehabilitation. I don't think any of us thought Jesse James was ever going to be a good guy. I'm sure Sandra Bullock is getting a little peace knowing it wasn't personal. He's an ass with problems that no woman can solve. He loves no one but himself. And he is always going to seek validation by screwing over women. What a sad person; I never thought Kat was a sympathetic character, but if she's going through Narc withdrawal, then my heart is with her.
Nov 14 - 8PM
nomoredenial
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Nicely said

It is really quite beautful.