It's all coming back

Does any man exist who thinks with his Head and not his penis I wonder?!!! Mine was very sexual and we had a sex life to die for but some funny things, like when I told him i had watched some porn many years ago with a old boyfriend, so what does he do the next time Iam over there, has bought 3 by mail,brown wrapped porn DVD's and we go watch them, they are so bad it is funny and i have to keep from laughing. He use to call me his whore all the time in bed, wanted me to talk dirty to him, not me, and then later got into anal sex, which he could not really do and I did not like, but who cares what i like i was just a masturbation toy to him anyway, so what the heck!?they all have a very PERVERTED view of women and sex, it is sooo true......................we are not real women in their eyes.this guy would die for blowjobs, he kept telling me how much he loved mine, said i should make a living doing that, not kidding.so Briseis, in answer to your question what is up with NARCS and blowjobs,i have no answer!

I guess it's obvious, they just get to sit there and get "served". Because exN was a "Christian", we could not have sex before we got "married" (he was still married to his first wife, but I was still in the dark about that). Instead, he would talk about sex, in great detail, and most of it was about getting a BJ from me. THAT should have been a screaming red flag all on it's own. After we were illegally married, and had our first night together, I "failed" him, disappointed him and he asked me to stop. The rest of the sex was strangely stiff and stilted because he was trying so hard to stay in control, that it was just horrible. But I was not going to acknowledge that. I was going to PLEASE HIM. Already I was disappointing him right and left, and by God, I would not disapoint him in bed. I did tremendous emotional and psychological damage to myself trying to PLEASE HIM. I debased myself. I humiliated myself. No, I was never all that kinky. It's what was going on in my head that humiliated me. I remember one afternoon we'd gotten overcome on the couch. He stopped in the middle, put on a porn video, and finished off. This was after a picnic, a long afternoon of teasing each other playfully, and he needed a PORN VIDEO to get off. I started to sob and couldn't stop. The Narc was really shocked! And I couldn't TELL him why I was sobbing, I barely understood it myself. I just knew I was nothing, a piece of meat and never was anything more than that. I broke down during sex one more time, same scenario, minus the porn video, just started sobbing and couldn't stop. I still didn't understand what was happening to me. I stopped having sex after that. The thought of it made me panic. I made excuses, I would psyche myself up (tonight I'm gonna do it!!) I read books and online articles about "low sex drive" in premenopausal females . . . sigh. Something in my just broke. Stood up and took over. NO MORE. If my heart didn't know what was happening to me, my BODY knew. To this day that's the only thing that makes any sense. My desire for sex VANISHED. I couldn't have done it with a gun to my head, but I didn't know WHY. All this talk of blow jobs brings it all back. How our natural desire to please has been twisted into something ugly and shameful, so that we are a Blow Job queen instead of a real queen.

mine sometimes said thank you after a blow job as well and he kept saying I could satisfy a much younger guy than himself and kept wondering why i did not make a living giving blowjobs?!! He seriously thought of me as his whore, strange, shows he did not respect women by that attitude.He had a very strange opion of women in general, very rotted in the 1950's mentality, like a little homemaker with nothing on but an apron! i realize now how incredibly childlike he was in so many ways, frozen at age 2 years old.

Yes that was me, he said always thank you after sex, demanded me to learn special blow job practices, then he said thank you after sex, all the time. This really shows how their mind works, thanks for the supply. Thanks miss whore...ughh this is so funny and sad.

My GAWD he really believed that :D That is too ferking hilarious :D

Mine didn't do any of that stuff.. Asking for Blows or stuff.. He would just cry during sex.... B/c um you know he loved me so much.. Gawd, ask for the blow and be done with it... We all have such weird stories from them.. blech

mine just wanted me to cook, drive him home when, take care of his hangover, be sexually available (called me his little wh*re), dress up, let him in peace when he wanted it, buy his mother's birthday gift, arrange the trips on which we went together, help him grading his students's homework.... Ok, he said thank you, and he did sometimes help me, or listen to me, and he could be very sweet.... but is was soooo unbalanced! And this is really groce, he did offer to pay for sex. To see if it would make me different. he would leave some money on the night stand. "buy something nice with it"..... which made me feel soooo disgusted. I just felt like it didn't was a game....

I never thought about it before, but my narc ALWAYS said thank you after sex. I never thought anything about it,but it was kinda strange. It was a little uncomfortable to have to say "your welcome". Sex should be a shared giving experience! Now I feel like what he was really saying was "thanks for the supply".

they all stamp their feet like two year olds when they dont get what they want, or they rage and break things....spoiled little boys in men's bodies......im hateful today, but so sad and regretful at the same time.....hope you are well...xoxo Jaycee

Im with you on this, mine said "you dont read my moods , you dont know when i want youre company and when i dont "... at the time when he said that i was so brain washed i actualy thought he was right and i needed to try harder to please him .With nc though i see that statment in a completely diffrent way lol x