It's all about control for me too...
It's all about control for me too...
It took Mr. N's distancing for me to come to understand that I too have control issues. I have been playing this control dance with Mr. N for a while. As long as things were smooth, as long as things were good, I felt in control. The moment he would start to distance, the moment he would start to pull away, the moment he would not reply...I felt at a loss. My world would spin out of control and I would feel that desperate need to bring it back into control. I wanted to hear things that made things right, that made things ok...I wanted to control the outcome...I wanted to control Mr. N. The problem is..you cannot control another human being and you certainly cannot control a controlling Narc.
Thus tonight I went to the adoption event on the verge of tears...feeling that I had failed...thinking of all the "what if" scenarios that would have led to a different outcome. As if punishing myself would ultimately change the reality. I have cried on and off...wishing to will Mr. N to release his request for no contact just so I could apologize. But apologize for what? For being away for a week and not taking my phone with me? For not answering his booty call text when he specifically requested that I not text him back? For having a life outside of being Mr. N's convenient sex doll? I feel unable to move forward...I feel stuck in a past where things appeared to make sense (even though they did not). At least, I would say to myself, I had this great looking guy who wanted pieces of me every so often. Now...I have nothing except a passive/aggressive text and a fear that I have let him down and can never make it right.
TRN1
totally relate
I agree with others here, and
I can relate, but...
COMPLETELY agree with Winter on this!!!!!
Hey Winter...sure...it's
I uderstand
Agree
I know..I should be grateful
Feeling versus Acting
I have spent all day and
totally agree with your
TRN1
TNR1, it's good you see how
Journey on...
Wow. I could have written