Is it okay to hate the OW?

I'm at a stage of mixed emotions. I could see that she has blocked me off fb and closed her whatsapp account. When she asked me everything about the N boyfriend we shared unknowingly I told her everything. Now it's like adding insult to injury after she blocks me . I suppose he told her and she must have decided to also I guess. I guess I just feel like those 2 are so smug. I haven't contacted him or her. But yes I guess I did check if I'm still on the what's app. I hate them both at this stage. It's like she wants to shove it in my face that he chose her. Well I ait it makes me pissed off and I feel like all the shaming is on me but I guess that's what narcs do so now all blame shifting is to me for his infidelity. So now me and OW feel like we are in competition. Damn this triangulation.

I'm just bitching because I was friendly to her. She had a cold aloofment about her that just annoys me. N narc went running to her and she was pretty smug that she's got him wrapped around her finger.

Ughhhhh... Just a ranting moment for me.. Sorry..better to post then contact I guess.