First, you can't make someone who doesn't want you want you!
This sounds ( I'm not a professional) like a man with a personality disorder !
Silent treatment D&D sounds like all of the above!
To answer your question, their mind & feelings are broken!!
Do the actions meet the words?? Nope!
NC is your only option!
Hunter
I know Nc is the only way. I am trying so hard to not contact him.
I often wonder if he is a N, or just this super hot guy, who know he can get anyone he wants and can just treat you crap, cause there is always someone else around the corner. U know...just and arrogant man who loves himself way too much...It doesn't matter anyway...you are right anyway.
I just want to be rid of these obsessive thoughts and wanting him all the time...wanting his attention that is.
Thanks Hunter...love your to the point attitudes...
all true : )
It is really flattering when a hot guy is after you (yep, know this as well)...but what I've learned from Mr. N is that looks are deceiving. Mr. N is a pretty package with nothing inside (well..he has a lot of rage, jealousy, resentment, envy...you get my point).
You deserve better for yourself. I know you know this.
Oh and don't let anyone make you feel bad...we have all made choices that in retrospect, we wish we could get a do over for...doesn't make us a bad person..it makes us human.
Thanks for the comment...I felt I had made a horrible mistake writing my post.It was my first one, and I totally felt terrible. I wrote it becuase I felt everyone was so supportive on the forum.
It has been great, however to see that really, everyone pretty much is supportive, and like me, isn't here to judge. Mistakes are made, some really bad ones, but, yes we are all human. Moving on from the mistake and taking hold, so that you don't fall into the same situation, is what makes the difference.
Yes I see that the beautiful package is just that with nothing inside..I often ground myself with the knowledge that if he can be dishonest with his partner (didn't know about her until too late) what on earth am I expecting from him?
You mention jealousy...are they jealous of us in any way I wonder? He has mentioned to me that he thinks I am beautiful on the outside but especially on the inside. Does this upset him...becuase he knows he is not like that?
Have a great day TNR1
Your words have frequently kept me in check. I am alone but, my N announced he moved in a OW about 4 months ago
( I think he lied...it happened way before that). After the bomb, I committed to NC and so far so good. I had been seeing him on/off for about 8 years.
However, there are days when I'm one text away from relapse and it takes everything to cease and desist. The battle is with the lonliness and coming to terms with my life choices in general. It's excruciating at times. I can't turn back the clock and "undo" anything. It is what it is.
The end of my toxic hope has arrived and now I'm at a place of trying to figure out what to do next...I know...sit with my feelings. Still find myself making goals that somehow, tie into getting his acceptance and approval. He zero'd in on my wounds and used them to control, manipulate and make me feel less than. No compassion, empathy, understanding and caring. It was all about him and his needs.
First, you can't make someone
Thanks Hunter
Oh..you and I must be sharing the same N...
**TRN1**
Great, he's hot, a lit of
Thank you Hunter