interesting read on the rule of NC

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#1 Oct 8 - 9PM
needing2know
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Oct 9 - 4AM
newbegginings
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Thanks

N2N, thanks a ton! Just started NC for the first time, and really needed this for reinforcement, Timtam
Oct 9 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
needing2know
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Tim Tam

your welcome, I think once in a while we all need that reinforcement to help us stay on track, I know I do. Even reading post about all the horror that happens when NC is broken and it scares me to think they really act that mean and hateful. I still wonder sometimes if he would be so mean if I broke NC, but I'm not going to do it, I am enjoying the quiet time and not walking on eggshells all the time, or wondering what kinda shit mood he would be in when he came to see me. Even though most of the time I knew what his mood was before he even got here or before I even talked to him. I swear sometimes I can still feel when he is in one of his moods!
Oct 9 - 12AM
rosedewittbukater
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Great article N2K!

Thanks for posting this. It was excellent reading. "were the Amish with their shunning onto something?" "Any contact can and will be used against you!" yup!!!
Oct 9 - 12AM
Makessensenow
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Even with NC, I keep thinking of what I WOULD say!

I'm 100% convinced NC is the way to go and ignored his last text a few weeks ago. He thinks I'm not mad after he finally admitted to years of lies bc I had to pretend I wasn't upset to avoid problems with him and his OW. (She had already lashed out at me once, when I had no clue who she was.) Now I keep composing my side of the conversation where I say how mad I am, what a jerk he is, and how I never want to talk to him again. I know, that wouldn't bring closure anyway, but I don't know how to get it out of my head!
Oct 8 - 10PM
Sea
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Thanks for sharing this link.

Thanks for sharing this link. We need NC to get back our dignity. To those who just started NC stay strong it does get better. The initial phase is hard or I should say bloody hard but it will pass. You gain strength by the day and the longer you are out the more you can ignore him.
Oct 8 - 10PM
Caligirl
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Thanks, needing, great reminder why n/c is for us

I still think about sending a final letter for closure, bc I never said good-bye. It's tempting, but this proves why I shouldn't.
Oct 8 - 9PM
tresor2
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Good Article on NC

Thanks Needing!!!