Had an interesting therapy session last night where I mentioned that it was easy to demonise my narc and conclude he was a nasty psychopath who was out to hurt me for his own sick amusement. I also mentioned Narc Boy's recent revelation with regards to his feelings of vulnerability, and my therapist mentioned the possibility that maybe it was that he was so terrified of feeling vulnerable that he had to "win" in every situation, lie to feel superior, and basically find any method possible to stop himself being emotionally vulnerable. And I have to admit it sounds like a reasonable theory and fits the facts, plus it seems to fit in with the way narcs work in general.
So now I'm left wondering if he's a narc or a psychopath. It seems such a fine line.
What are other peoples experiences with their vulnerability? Do they do anything to hide it? Do they panic if it shows?