The insidious ones
The insidious ones
Sometimes, I think, many Ns are quite subtle and insidious in destroying self esteem - they slowly make you believe that YOU are the dysfunctional one, and they are being oh, so noble to put up with you and all your "problems." I am posting something I wrote in the 90s because it may help some of you who are dealing with these insidious types. (I came to this board due to another different non-love interest Narcissist in my life...I guess I attract Ns like mosquitoes).
I never ever really think of this former N that I wrote about, his power over me is long gone. I wrote this bit not knowing anything about Narcissism - interesting, huh? And, the "perfect" person I speak of here? Gone, gone, gone, like many, many unfortunate others...he hasn't found the perfect person yet, YEARS later.
Our lives together
Were one long, drawn out, never ending
Self improvement course for me.
From the beginning you were oh so unhappy and grumpy
Unloved, put upon, forced to be in power and caretake
But the irony is that YOU forced it to be that way.
You offered me
NO support
NO affirmation
NO love
Just advice on how to be someone else to win your love.
You cannot live, you cannot breathe
Without your pretense of power.
You truly cannot love
And the love of others, their vulnerability,
Disgusts you.
It means you are responsible for that loving person.
It is frustrating, your inability to see my strength.
I resent your version of me, your version of the relationship.
After grabbing all the power by being mean and critical
By never letting me feel at ease
By constantly judging
You ironically say you cannot be with a weak person like me.
But think about it
I put up with you for 6 years, your insanity, your criticism, your unloving nature.
I think that makes me pretty f&%ing strong.
Good luck on your stupid pathetic rebound relationship
With the new "perfect" person
Oh yes, I am sure that she's all that I am not
Completely utterly independent; A sexual wonder; never shy or unsure or vulnerable; never emotional or hurt; never ever has any problems;
Doesn't ask anything of you;
is unfazed by any nastiness you exhibit,
in fact, loves you all the more for being such a strong, nasty, independent guy.
Worships you. Yet hates you.
Asks for no intimacy. Complete utter detachment.
What a crock of shit. Good luck you stupid pathetic f*&khead.
Sarah
First I have to say that every word of it....
Vix
Thank You sarahb and Vix for your posts and poem
wow thats so strange you
It is interesting that you had no idea about Ns....
they are all alike!
so true they are all
sarahb
Nevergoback
Nancy
NancyM...
Introspection
Nevergoback
your poem