Insecurity

I trusted him completely to begin with why wouldn't I he was loving charming sexy and able to relate to me on any topic we shared the same likes and dislikes in food, music, cars, etc. etc. and then gradually he began to display moods for no apparent reason these moods turned into anger and rage even if I gave my oppinion different to his or at the slightest critism. Sometimes I would ask if there was someone else He would then shout, shout, shout and then came the disgarding - a day or so then he would call to get me back this has now been a pattern for ages.

Finally he disgarded me for good putting all the blame onto my insecurities. I hadn't shown how bad these were to him. He said I had to trust who he was. I questioned him again and said' I feel like one moment you want me and the next you don't you have told me countless times it is over and then you call to get me back as if nothing has happened how can I not feel insecure'

He told me to go and that this time it was over. I sent him a text to try and explain how I had felt when he had been verbally and physically abusing me, finishing with me then taking me back trying to make me feel I was losing my mind and gaslighting me. He called but not to apologise but to again blame me for being so insecure. Do you think he needed to be to be secure and fully trusting so that he was able to do whatever he wanted without me knowing He also hated questions about what he had been doing the sort of question you would ask anyone out of genuine interest he hated that I would be grateful for some help feel like I am going mad I still cannot believe he is a narc but everything I'm reading points to it.