Insecure Morons.

Inflated ego? You betcha. Thinks he's the most intelligent, charming, sophisticated, creative person there is. What is he successful at? NOTHING!!!! All huff and puff but nothing to show for it. He believes one day he'll be rich and famous and will then be able to tell everyone to eff off. Nice, huh? Sad really, I always enjoyed talking with him though. He's really not a stupid guy just freaking lazy. He would often comment about how hard I worked and that he felt sorry for me. It would drag me down at times especially on a nice day when I would rather have been doing anything else other than work. My mom would do the same thing about my work often asking when are you going to quit that "silly" job. Silly?!?! I guess she would have been happier had I been a hooker. I've worked at my job 25yrs now and the past 12 out of my home sometimes even sitting out in my garden now that I have a laptop. I think it's pretty nice. He's also critical about anyone who works. He loves that he makes more on disability than he does working, so he stays home. Not only is he critical of other people's work ethics but just in general especially their appearance. We have this fairly hunky looking mail carrier, he's not my type but if he says hi I return it. Well, this got him going the one day he got quite nasty about it too. He always writes guys off that look like that as being gay. He's very sensitive about his weight so feels threatened by anyone in the slightest bit of shape. Someone mentioned how their N analyzes everything, he is the same right down to how many rings it took you to answer the phone. Pathetic. Often times he complains how needy everyone is and he has to do everything for everyone. He'd complain incessantly about everyone calling, texting, emailing that everyone seems to think he has all the time in the world. And how could I forget that out of all his sibings he's the most responsible one, that the family would fall apart without him. He is the most upright pillar of the community a great guy (puke). It's a rant that has well passed it's expiration date. Funny as much as he huffs and puffs beneath it all is a very insecure needy person. When I first became angry with him, he would call every 30 min until I finally answered. Then there was an odd thing with email. For about a month he'd send the same email an hour apart from one another everyday. He was very angry to discover I blocked him online. But it's perfectly ok that he has another screen name I'm not privy to that he uses to spy on me with. He mentioned in passing that he was surprised I was up so late one night. Of course didn't see him on so I figured he was on with another name. There have been times during his odd job hunt where he'll comment that no one will hire him because he has a horrible track record. So as much wind as he sometimes blows he also blows the other way of degrading himself. He'll say it jokingly at times, in a bitter way other times. I've found him to be oversensitive, moody, easily depressed. I try not to give him too many human qualities any longer because then I feel sympathetic.

Yeah, I'm recognizing a lot of traits that you described - Low/no ambition, not very involved with people around him, calling back to back if I didn't pick up, anything that I admired in another guy was IMMEDIATELY a reflection of him on how he did or didn't measure up, commenting on the "hotness" of female celebrities, analyzing every intake of breath, every glance, gesture, sigh, facial expression, tone of voice - that creepy hyper-analyzing in conjunction with his police officer training made conversations a nightmare - he acted like he had every right to know every thought that crossed my mind, and made it a point to ask constantly what I was thinking about. And for me too, that's the one thing that still kind of baffles me - the level and depth of neediness and insecurity coinciding with the pride and ego - EVERYTHING is about how it makes him look - worrying about what other people think of him, trying to be 'cool' and fit in socially, morphing his behavior based on different social variables, his appearance and his car, not being able to handle criticism or called out in anything, etc. etc. As far as your question goes, I'm not really sure if this is another or different variation of the typical Narcissist - Maybe this is why narcissists make everything about them? - they need constant affirmation and validation from their relationships with people, from their possessions, and from their environment to build them up - anything or anyone that says otherwise about them or 'calls a spade a spade' with their behavior, they can't handle - how they react to people 'calling them out,' from what I've read on here, seems to vary. What I do know, however, is that mine was a Somatic Narcissist - Everything was about the physical, external, and appearance. I was without a doubt smarter than him - education-wise, vocabulary-wise, and just smarter in general with personal life wisdom and common sense. Not really any mental stimulation as far as conversations to be had with him.