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#1 Aug 10 - 12AM
Scoop
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The incessant bore

When i first met my narc i thought he was quite clever but alas in time it became clear that he was very stupid . What he did to cover up his stupidity is talk for hours with a tone of voice that made him sound as if he was a leading authority on what ever subject he chose to bore the pants off you .When i listerned carefully to what he was saying it was a monologue with no beginning, middle or end with absolutely no point of intrest . Theres a saying which is "never have so many words been used to express such a little idea " and that summs up my narc nicely .
Heres our Thomas Sheridan on how the psychopath is devoid of any real intellect .
http://labyrinthpsycho.blogspot.com/2010/12/are-so-clever-wise-and-learn...

Scoop x

Aug 10 - 5AM
Susan32
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The endless lectures

The ex-Psych prof fancied himself a philosopher... but he was incapable of new ideas, or deeper insights. The Q&A session of his first lecture ended with a mass dismissal of everyone&him throwing a tantrum. My 2 year old nephew is MORE EXCITING. The ex-P was like a living book of Bartlett's Quotations;he could quote other people extensively, but come up with his own ideas? Really? He was obsessed with "War and Peace" before I met him (he was livid when I read his "Wittgenstein, Tolstoy, and the Meaning of Life") and after I left (like the lecture he gave when I broke NC in '09) He considered himself an expert on the novel, yet I wasn't allowed to read it. He was paranoid that I'd ruin his favorite book. The final D&D was one endless repetitive lecture. No wonder the ex-P could tell I was zoning out. I'd tell him I was listening to him... I probably really wasn't.
Aug 10 - 4AM
BadaBing
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**

I agree Scoop. EX was very dramatic always had lots to say but always said the same things, but with friends and acquaintances he would have varied conversations and be open to new ideas, in private he was closed off and judgemental and know it all and with the crowd the 'nice guy' everyone always likes. I found more and more looking at him speak to me, beg at times, his words lacked depth of feeling, meaning I felt he was just saying whatever sounded good, not that he really connected to his words.
Aug 10 - 3AM
Cgrl
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oh my yes

Scoop - I always look forward to your links. Thank you. My narc- My lord, he was so smart but really really stupid at the same time. I would encourage him to go back to school but the man could not even hold a job. He would always have these crap part time jobs. Just could not do it. He would read verociously. I have boxes and boxes of books I am still donating to charities. It is so amazing - he wasnt really smart. It was all "learned". Thanks. This was great insight. I used to say to myself - how can such a smart guy be so freaking dumb, make impulsive choices and so on... Well. This is why.
Aug 10 - 2AM
Gerri
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Flowery Language

Yes mine uses what I call 'flowery' language - lots of long words in one sentance. He'd tail off not making sense on topics he new nothing about. Bull shit baffles brains!! Jack of all trades master at none!
Aug 10 - 1AM
freaked
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Nodding in agreement with you Scoop

OMG Scoop..this accurately describes my life..for years NH spoke utter crap.. and disguised his ineptitude with resounding words and fudged data which I could never verify. Now, since the past 11 months there is OW who is enthralled with him..or maybe she is in it for the hefty money he pays her..yep..I snoop this is OW#3 in the Serious Affair list. there were at least 4 OWs in the casual fling list. OW#3 has been promised marriage and they have even rented out an apartment...and NH is still married to me... should i say ewwww or owwww ? Oh YES the narc is an utter and incorrigible BORE who has zero sense of humour...but thinks he has tremendous S-o-H and is an interesting conversationalist. He would do very well with a Deaf&Mute bucket which he could kick at his own expense ;)