Happy I'm glad that your son is home now and you'll be enjoying your evening and hopefully not thinking about your exN too much.
Yes, I also think it's great we're both seeing our therapists this week, and I'll definitely get your email from Betty. We can check in with each other later this week and see how the sessions went.
I agree that it helps to do a lot of reading. When I feel really sad or am missing my exN once I start reading some articles or postings it reinforces the fact that he truly is a N and that I really don't want to be around someone who can treat people like that, especially someone they're supposed to care about.
Good luck on tuesday and talk to you soon...
Thanks!
Great! Let's compare notes on what the therapists tell us. That will be great!! I know mine will have me explain what has happened these past few months first and then we will focus on us. I feel blessed to have found a good therapist. She knows exactly what we're going through because she was also in a Narc relationship. Thank you again for your help today and hopefully you feel a little bit better tonight.
Happy1
I know, being strong sucks, doesnt' it! But you know what will happen if you take the easy road and give in. You've been there, done that. And it ended up even worse. We've all done it, so don't you go feeling like you are some sort of failure! These guys are so good at what they do, and they just wear us down and wear us down until we are down so far that we think we'll never dig out.
If you give in and give up, it would feel better for a minute, a week, a month. But then you will be right back where you are now again. And you don't want to go through all of this shit again. It sucks! It hurts! Look at how far you've come, and you would be doing it all over again.
Maybe you can just accept that this is a down day, and when you get to tomorrow morning and you didn't contact him, you will really feel so much better, and you will know that you didn't die from the pain. Hang in there, it will get better.
I know you are right. It would feel good again for just a short time. I will keep going and I will remember this pain so I never want to take him back and feel this horrible pain again. I hurt so bad today but I will just cry and let it happen.
Thank you for being here for me.
H
Cry as much as you need, just cry..scream if you need..clear your mind. Once you will break NC you will have to start over again. Nothing will change apart of this that he will give you next doze of pain and you will give him next doze of Narcissist supply.
Life has to go on, and this is your life. You need to do everything to have your life back. Nobody will help you unless you will help yourself.
We all have worse days, but we need to do all we can there was less and less days like this.
Keeping yourself occupied with job, friends, hobbies is the best what you can do on the days like this. Do not give yourself the time to think, try to plan your weekends so you do not sit at home. Weekends are worst as we have to much time to think. and you will see Happy1, that one day you will be totally fine. We can fight this feelings, yes we can!
Thank you! I think I had too much time unplanned this weekend and maybe I need to plan next weekend better. There will be noise in the house next weekend because i have my son. That always helps. Thank you!
I'm glad
safre99
Happy,
MsV
Cry as much as you need,
ewa