Identifying Losers

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#1 Jul 3 - 5PM
broken23
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Identifying Losers

http://www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/IdentifyingLosers.html

Freedom from Our Losers! Happy 4th Everyone!!

Jul 5 - 11AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Broken23

Great article you posted! Thanks for sharing! xoxo
Jul 4 - 1AM
James (not verified)
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broken23

This was the first article from Dr. Carver that I read after my ex and I broke up. A "stranger" from a support group site left a link after I tried to explain the behavior I had seen concerning my ex. It was like someone threw me a life line rope. Bringing me back to shore and out of the stormy sea. I can't believe it was written in black and white for me too read. I must have read it a hundred times!! I even had the chance to email him (Dr. Carver) on his site and he responded back with both kindness and support. While this was in fact my first article to read about this disorder it wasn't the last. Still being my first I favored it most and Thank God for Dr. Carver taking his time to construct it and publish it on the net for all to see. So thank you too "stranger" for on that day you saved a soul lost and searching for truth! http://alturl.com/jq542
Jul 3 - 6PM
Susan32
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What a great article!

Very helpful. I'm keeping an eagle eye. All I can say is, thank goodness I didn't get romantically/physically involved with my ex-P, or my D&D would have been that much WORSE. I dodged a bullet. My ex-P fits soooo many of those Loser characteristics. He wanted me to dump my friends and ridiculed my family--I didn't do either. He failed the Waitress test--in a sense, I was the neutral party as the Student. He did treat female students with contempt&condescension--and assume he still does. The constant belittling and criticism--ditto. Making me feel "crazy"--yep, when he sent me to the therapist to "manage my emotions" the first yr of our "relationship." Constantly making me take the blame,refusal to take responsibility. Thank God I never dated my ex-P. He was bad enough as a professor.
Jul 3 - 6PM
betty2020
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another great read. My exN

another great read. My exN fits every characteristic outlined. Of course you dont see any of this initially. Once the honeymoon is over and your hooked in, it is unveiled to you. The problem with the Narc is that they are able to put up such a good display in the beginning that you think you just struck oil. So when the little subtle character flaws begin showing you just overlook them. I could rationalize and justify just about anything when with him. It really makes me sick now looking back. So now looking into the future, when i do start dating again, i wonder how to proceed with finding new love. You have no warning signs initially or at least i didnt. How would i even know? Maybe because if it seems to good to be true, it probably is.

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