Idealization Phase List
Idealization Phase List
Here is a list of some of the things XN did and told me during the idealization phase. Please feel free to add to it so we can all be aware of red flags for the future!
* "You can do no wrong."
* Would stare at me.
* Had to see or talk to me every single day.
* Would sulk or pout if I wanted to do stuff without him.
* Lavished me with gifts and fancy dinners.
* Gave me a key to his house after 2 weeks of dating.
* Swore that I was THE ONE, the soulmate.
* Told me he loved me within a month of dating.
* Scheduled all kinds of little getaways, but wouldn't tell anyone where he was going or who he was with (secretive).
* Told me I was the only one he could trust.
* Told me I was the only one he could be himself around.
* Told me I was his best friend.
* Told me he'd take care of me if I quit work to go to college full time (thank goodness I didn't fall for that one!).
* Always had to be touching me.
* Had an insatiable sexual appetite and was quite generous in the bedroom. Overtly generous.
* Performed oral on the first sexual encounter, but refused to have intercourse and would not let me touch him (a very powerful baiting technique, ladies, so watch out for that one!).
* Indulged my every whim. If I'd not done something before he HAD to be the first to let me experience it (i.e. ride in a limo, eat sushi, etc.).
* Told me he'd never met anyone like me before.
* Told me I was an amazing person.
* Told me he wanted to know my world.
Getting idealized during the final D&D
I don't think I was ever idealized
You should have been
Well not exactly
I didn't get idealized
it makes me sad....
:( Unfortunately.
Did we date the same narc??
OMG!!
*nod*
Subtle one, but
Idealization Phase
You got just about all of it
trying to add
Crazy....
Oh gosh, you're so welcome!
I cant get my jaw closed!
praying
Projection
Ugh! these last two posts
spinning