I,Arwen, the personal massage therapist of the Narc

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#1 Aug 15 - 3AM
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I,Arwen, the personal massage therapist of the Narc

Did you know that I give great massages? I don't mean like really good...I mean great, like I don't have a license to practice massage therapy but I should have one? That kind of great. And you know why? Cause I am such a fucking empath that I literally put my own body into the painful places of other people's bodies and figure out how to relieve the pain as if it were my own. So. Every time I saw ex N, he was writhing in muscle pain of course due to his complete obsessive anxiety, insomnia and general insanity, and he would revel in my massages. He knew how much pleasure it gave me to make him feel good. And you know what? After what must have totalled twenty hours of massage - that rat bastard didn't lift his dirty, stinky PINKY TOE to return even one back scratch. And he joked about it. Knew I wouldn't leave, sneered at how clever he was that he could get away with me giving and giving and giving and that he did not have to do anything in return but be the Adonis G-d in whose presence I should CLEARLY bow down and worship. He did that with sex too. He would withold to the last minute and sneer when I would be so damn tired and he woke me up in the early morning sneering for sex. He's just one sneering mother fucker. I see it now - all I see in my head is that famous sneer of his. Only I don't think it's so funny now. And I also now know, that the off the charts chemistry that existed between he and existed because I made it happen. So for all of you ladies wondering why the sex is so good it's because YOU gave the goods, NOT him. YOU are the creative goddesses who stoked that fire - NOT HIM! YOU were the fireworks that brought him into those states of ecstasy. And that truth I know because I know that none of them are capable of giving, so the logical answer is that he took his cues all from me. TAKE YOUR STRENGTH BACK GODDESSES OF LOVE!

Aug 16 - 2AM
strivingforhealing (not verified)
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8 years of great massage for him and NOT ONE for me

I almost fell out of my chair with this posting Arwen.. I have often thought of this fact in my relationship- of how many fucking amazing massages I gave this ass...and I got NOT A ONE. I actually remember asking for one a couple years ago..he started to..and after about 2 minutes- he got very uncomfortable and awkward and just stopped...without saying anything and dragged me into the shower to have sex. If it was not so damn late right now, I would scream and just get this anger out. so so so many hours of loving attentive deep massage and this fucker gives me nothing back. I am so done....I have been spared....
Aug 16 - 2AM (Reply to #16)
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Striving...Geez isn't it just

Striving...Geez isn't it just so freaking maddening??! You know mine, like yours, attempted like three paltry strokes on my back with two fingers of his hand and stopped also. And then snickered and sneered and made a joke about how "you know I'm too tired now honey". HA FUCKING HA!!! Oh man - I wonder how long it took him to come up with THAT phrase of humor(?). This is causing me so much pain to talk about him like this. I loved him once...when I was so young...and none of this went on. Not that he gave me massages then either but I didn't either at that age. Maybe I did and don't remember. I am crying now just thinking of the time when we were young and it was so simple and he wasn't a complete lying, dirty, thieving, conning, disgustingly perverted man. Oh G-d how I loved him. This shock of seeing him like this later in his life...I can hardly stand the pain.
Aug 15 - 9PM
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He didn't like being touched

The ex-Psych prof shrank from physical affection, even of the platonic kind. He identified with Prince Andrei in "War and Peace",who shrinks away from Pierre's physical affection, and only feels alive on the battlefield. At graduation, when I hugged the ex-P, he tried to flee from me. There was terror in his eyes, as if he were a hunted animal. It was the ONLY time I was physically affectionate with him for those 4 years. What was sadder, was that when he flaunted his girlfriend, he wasn't affectionate with her. I assumed he'd go all the way and have a make-out marathon. He even pulled the vanishing act on her, abandoning her in front of his colleagues. He didn't introduce her either. My former Narc boss didn't like being touched either... he had an LDR with his much older boyfriend. He'd shriek if his uniform got dirtied. What's twisted that I had read Pope John Paul II's "Love and Responsibility", and in it he speaks of the "fear of touch" that comes from chaste love. I'm pretty sure the ex-P was reading it to mirror me... and he saw his fear of touching&being touched as somehow purity.
Aug 15 - 4PM
Deidre40
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aaah the benefits of a long

aaah the benefits of a long distance relationship. only gave him one massage. lol
Aug 15 - 3PM
dabussard
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Arwen

I could have written your post word for word!! My N loved my back rubs... Everytime we were together... I would work the knots out of his back.. He was always telling me ease up, I'm not a horse... lol.. I massage my horses vertebraes all the time... Hehe.. He couldn't handle a massage meant for a horse... lol.. Mine would withhold sex too... It always had to be on his terms when he wanted it... The sex was amazing, because I was so into him... His touch would drive me mad... And, Well it would last for hours... That part helped alot.. These Damn Jacknuts are all the same!
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #12)
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Dabussard - jacknuts.. hee

Dabussard - jacknuts.. hee hee!! I love it. everyone here has some hilarious term I have never heard before. You know mine had a touch that always drove me mad as well. I can't deny his sexiness, his beauty. But I really think that a lot of it was that we had NOTHING else to do - like, TALK?????!!!!!!!
Aug 15 - 2PM
rosedewittbukater
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Me too!!

OMG Arwen this was me and xN too. Almost every single time we were together!! Never once did I receive so much as a backscratch either!?! I couldn't tell you how many massages I gave. Aromatherapy, the works too. They really are all alike aren't they?
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #10)
Arwen
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Rose this is SO enlightening

Rose this is SO enlightening and helpful to me to see your reply. It's really, really like we have all been with the same guy. This should strengthen us all.
Aug 15 - 2PM
RubyWoo
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Mine was into tickles, he

Mine was into tickles, he loved tickles and he always wanted them. I can't even remember when I got them in return...
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #8)
Arwen
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Ruby you can't remember cause

Ruby you can't remember cause you never got them!
Aug 15 - 12PM
Tinker
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i did the exact same thing,

i did the exact same thing, many many massages. it was all about serving him. yes, the empath in us wants to make him feel better, but they never give back. he would control by denying sex, denying attention, denying time together, which made me crazy. i think this was the cruelest method, i'm almost jealous of others who lived with their N, i never had the opportunity to work out any issues, i was always craving attention. mine would withhold sex too, i had to ask permission! all so weird, and almost funny to think about... hugz.........
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #6)
Arwen
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Tinker yeah I know what you

Tinker yeah I know what you mean by wanting to have been a live-in, but now that I have had the distance, it still hurts like hell but can you IMAGINE living with this one-sided taker???
Aug 15 - 10AM
Deidre40
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Ugh…made my stomach turn

Ugh…made my stomach turn reading what you went through arwen. :=( I am so sorry. What do you mean he’d withhold sex to the last minute and then sneer? And then he’d wait for you to be tired? Huh? What kind of strange game is this that he played??
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #4)
Arwen
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Dee...thanks for the sympahty

Dee...thanks for the sympathy much-needed tonight. He just sneered whenever he got away with something like getting a back rub for an hour and then going to sleep and would make a joke out of my not getting anything in return. The sex part...would have to wait all night till three in the morning in a bar with him and THEN go back to his place and have sex. It was like a prescription every time I went to see him...and I travelled a lONG freaking way to see this guy. I would get to his place hours before our usual bar hop and he knew I wanted him and had little time to be with him, and he deliberately controlled that situation. Also, it became clear to me that he had to be very drunk in order to have sex. That was also one of the reasons it always didn't happen until AFTER the bar scene. UCCHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Aug 15 - 8AM
jen79
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Arwen

"And I also now know, that the off the charts chemistry that existed between he and existed because I made it happen. So for all of you ladies wondering why the sex is so good it's because YOU gave the goods, NOT him. YOU are the creative goddesses who stoked that fire - NOT HIM! YOU were the fireworks that brought him into those states of ecstasy. And that truth I know because I know that none of them are capable of giving, so the logical answer is that he took his cues all from me. TAKE YOUR STRENGTH BACK GODDESSES OF LOVE!" OMG, you are so right. Yes yes yes yes. You are right. Take your effort away, what is left, a dumb lazy stupid ass. You are right, the chemistry beyond words, the fireworks, it was mine. Thats what I needed to hear. Thank you.
Aug 16 - 1AM (Reply to #2)
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Jen OMG you are SO welcome!!

Jen OMG you are SO welcome!! Thank you for everything you bring to me here also!! Isn't it the damn truth?