A part of me feels slighted because he's not even hovering...LOL, not one incident...nothing nada. I just want my last chance to call him a narc!...Why won't he give that to me?...LOL
It's really a blessing he's not hoovering, but I totally understand the wish he'd have the guts to give you a chance to call him out :D
After a seven year marriage where he said "I love you" at least daily, and when I was on the verge of leaving he begged me to stay, promised change, even tried hard to change once, told me it was him and me forever, and I believed it . . . my exNarc didn't hoover me. The closest I got to a hoover was he told a mutual friend that he wanted me to know he wanted to make it all up to me -- almost a year after I kicked him out. The rest of it was threats to take me to court and kick my ass, but that was only twice, once in a letter (the only direct communication I ever got from him) and once via the mutual friend.
Out of sight, out of mind.
So I felt a lot like you do. But I tell you what . . . this lack of contact is SO good for you, even if it hurts. It is clearing the fog, big time. Even if you feel awful, sad or really pissed off, the lack of contact WORKS on your head for the good.
So, you are fortunate. Even though at times it does not "feel" that way :)
He will be back , he is just wating for the water to calm , mine thought 4 months was long enough and he tryed to contact , the idiot thought i might have calmed down HA . I sent him away with a big fat flee in his ear . I have called my narc every name under the sun i told him i wanted him dead , its water off a ducks back to them .
They cant stand being abandoned so they WILL try and come back . They also have very little concetp of time so it could be any time .Hopefully he will leave it long enough for you to get youre head straight and gem up on what a psycopath really is .
Mine asked to meet up for an "honest conversation" but i had already said i wanted him dead ?? wtf !! its like talking to a brick .
I think that you "misunderstood" your narc. He wanted an honest conversation where he would give you an opportunity to clarify EXACTLY HOW HE SHOULD DIE!!!...LOL....
Yea, right...
did you read about how mine found a voodoo doll with his name on it surrounded by black candles with tons of black pins in it, took the doll, then gave it back to me??
stick me with pins just don't ignore me!!!
Stand by for the games to commence.... I said that very same thing some months ago. Now i am at the point that i dont want the contact and Guess what????? Today i am traveling via helicopter thru the islands of Hawaii. My dream vacation. Went up close to waterfalls 1000s of feet long, the most beautiful scenery you could ever imagine! National geographic scenery. It was peaceful and so breathtaking it felt like what i could imagine heaven to be like. I finally felt a sense of real peace and comfort for the first time in so long i cant even remember. I have not had any contact in months with the N. I have not tried nor had he. His daughter contacted me, his ex wife has contacted me, his son as well but nothing from him. Today i got off the chopper ride and opened my phone cause it beeped and here it was, A message from the current girlfirend he moved in 3 weeks after i left.
"Can you tell me what Dave did to you that you still want to have contact with him? Also, did he ask you to marry him?"
I can tell you that i am still floored tonight. I have never had contact with her nor him or anyone that knows him or her. His family had contacted me. So the girlfriend is getting the first taste of all of his Narcness. It is now beginning to happen to her. He use to try to make me think his exs were trying to get back with him. Wanted me to think he was highly sought after by all the women in his life. Haha. He is doing the same to her. They really dont ever change their tactics. I feel bad for her as i know she is getting ready to experience the most pain she could ever imagine. But i cant help her. This one is better left alone.
So my point? Be careful what you wish for. You will more than likely get it, and more than likely not want it by the time it comes around.
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Sorry your vacation had to be interrupted by the butthead!
In my case though Betty, I don't think he will contact me. I went into such rage and insanity for a few months, terrible terrible texts, called him every kind of drug addict, homsexual, narcissist, you name it...I left NOTHING to the imagination, referred to size of anatomy...anything and everything I could do to shame him. Sick, twisted and nothing like me but something triggered...my story background etc I think had a lot to do with the rage I was feeling. It was more intense because it was compounded by 42 years of stuffing. I think I would have raged anyway, but seriously, I could have taken a cleaver to him, something SNAPPED!...I mean it was like I was possessed. SO...even though I did that after a while, when I finally woke up and started smelling a rat...I mean a NARC...the only place for him to go was to go scurry into a hole with whatever or whomever he's doing now. I don't think he will EVER have the cojones to face me. Italian and Puerto Rican mix over here...a very passionate hot blooded mix to contend with if you get on my bad side. I can usually contain it, It takes alot for that monster to surface...maybe three times in my whole life could I say I could kill someone, but Nah, I don't think it will happen...I just never had the chance to tell him to his face what a lowlife I think he is...but I know in time, the desire for that "last pound of flesh" will leave.
I turned mine over to the Feds for investigation on child molestation and internet solicitation of a minor child. I inflicted severe narc injury upon him and made sure he knew that i was aware of everything. I said the exact same thing as you are saying but i can assure you that you are not out of the woods by any stretch. The thing i want to point out is that when this hits and contact is made, you more than likely will be doing very well and feel much better. You will more than likely not want this connection and look at it as a danger to your recovery. It comes at the time you least suspect it and when you have no desire to deal with it. It really sucks when all you want is peace and just as your almost there something happens to test you all over again.
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Seriously Betty, truth be told, I left this chump nowhere to hide...really, I surprised myself. It bothered me that he was spewing that all his friends thought I was crazy. The Narc drove me there. BUT...he knows I'm smart. In fact, I think he may have physically abused his ex wife on a few occasions now that I look back at it. Thing is, I give a little spiel before I get involved with a man, and I tell them that I don't tolerate such behavior. I always say, you better kill me or knock me out cold because if I am still standing, I'm Puerto Rican and I know how to use a knife...now seriously, I'm a freaking marshmellow; however, while not "street" or "tuff" I have a way of letting people know, I don't tolerate much...which is WHY, this situation is in a way mind boggling because I see howclose I came to possibly being physically abused. The mental abuse was so stealth. The signs were there, his father is an abuser and his mother sits there like a victim, eating crumbs!!!...She complains, but everyone has to "walk on eggshells"...TOTAL DYSFUNCTION...everyone in the family was messed up...I don't know what fumes I was breathing in to get involved with someone like this, but he seemed so...Hahaha..."Different" from them. It's like every common sense thing that I know went out the window...I caught the "vapors" *an old phrase from my teenage years. Seriously...I hate to use this word, but he was ghetto!...WTH...anyhoooo...I am convinced he won't...really - too much pride, he can't face me and he knows better because I am on to him.
Haha. I am Italian Irish 50/50. When i am sober i have the temper of my mother. A wicked tongue and i can throw a shoe from 200 yards like a boomerang. It will catch you in the back of the head as i learned this from the best there ever was , my mom. Now when drinking??? Step aside. When the Irish comes out it just gets plain ugly for everyone.
Still warning you girl..Never under estimate the Narc.
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Irish tempers in my life and Italian...look-out!...LOL
Well, maybe he's not a narc...just an addict with bipolar or borderline or whatever...WHATEVER it is...he managed to inflict an injury on my psyche...
Maybe he could be a narc...maybe I escaped before all of it came out.
He did have some really chauvenistic attitudes
He always seemed to be aroused by those get rich quick shemes on tv at 3am
Ummm, there's more I think he is a Narc...
OH WAIT!...the telltale sign...LACKED EMPATHY...okay...just a little cognitive dissonance...all will be back to normal soon.
LOL
In one of my rages, I screamed I could rip off his head and shit down his neck. I think he knows better than I, that in this case, it could actually happen.
I had a text yesterday am (only turned my phone on that evening), wait for it drum roll.... there was NO message on it!! lol nothing.. what? why? oh i know- hope you are thinking about me? piss off
I changed my number, blocked his email address and shut down my cell account - guess I should expect a blank piece of paper via carrier pidgeon?...LOL!
Stand by for the peck at your window...lol. never under estimate anything with a Narc!! You crack me up Michele!!!..
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Now that would be funny if he did,lol. As i have a child with him he needs a phone number to contact ******, but i have come to relise that he is using this number to send his silly 6 yr old tantrums aswell. Your N will find a way
me too
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Awww Scoop, don't be so mean...
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