i thought mine was gay when i first met him

I wouldn't be surprised if he was bi-sexual. A lot of people who suffer from PD's are actually. And closet bisexuals, he will never admit it.

The ex-Psych prof ogled men (instead of women) in my presence. He preferred me clad in jeans or pants rather than skirts or dresses. He'd talk about how he felt more comfortable around men. He'd quote "War and Peace" about how all men are handsome, good women are plain and evil women are beautiful. He liked wearing skin tight jeans, he had a circle of adoring male students. His philosophical idol, Ludwig Wittgenstein, was openly gay, while his literary idol, Leo Tolstoy, confessed to homosexual crushes in his diaries, and this was the ex-P's favorite quote of Tolstoy "I have fallen in love with many men, but not once I have fallen in love with a woman." My junior year, an openly gay male prof, warned me about the ex-P. I surmised that this prof (who had a cute younger Asian boyfriend) was the ex-P's ex-BOYFRIEND, and the breakup was ugly. When the ex-P flaunted his butch girlfriend, who wore pants suits&tank tops, the rumors didn't die. The ex-P was also virulently homophobic. He said vile things about gays. For a time, he was obsessed with Rainbow Flava, an African-American gay rap collective. He'd say "I'M NOT GAY! I'm NORMAL!" He had extremely effeminate mannerisms, wore a beret (despite not being French), had a lisp.. and in my freshman year, he bared his chest all the way to his navel.

I did too. I asked him (upon entering his Pottery Barn worthy house) if he was married or gay. He said neither. I should have paid attention from that very first moment!