I think my ex might be trying to get me back, can you help me figure this out?

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#1 Sep 11 - 1PM
Miss_Jade
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I think my ex might be trying to get me back, can you help me figure this out?

I was having alot of fun at the party i was at the other night, and i was really drunk mind you. One of my exs co workers happened to be there and walked up to me and started talking about my ex. It was making me mad because im done with this shit and ive moved on, so i dont like hearing about anything to do with him. I kept saying " Im glad you think skyler is a good guy and all, and i wish him the best, but ive moved on from this and im done with it." Well, he must have said something that made me feel bad enough for my narc cause when i woke up the next day i saw that i texted him a long, sappy text making sure he was ok. IM SO MAD!! I DIDNT REALLY MEAN ANYTHING I SENT! Reading it makes me want to gag. Now ive opened a can of worms.

Later in the day i get a text from my narc demanding to know my schedule so he can come by and drop off some stupid video game that i dont care about and to "breifly discuss something" with me. He also told me to stop saying "homie" in my texts because "were not and its a huge insult to him for me to say that." But after that he switched his attitude and told me that he was really angry at his co worker for doing that to me because i didnt deserve for him to do that to me. He said "fucking hell, im giong to have a talk with him because i dont want anyone giving you shit about us ever. Next time someone bothers you tell me and ill take care of it! Its very important that you tell me all the details of what he said and what went on that night. Its a huge deal to me. And i dont want to go get the ring from the jewelers because i dont want to re open my healing wounds from us. Im having a hard enough time getting past being apart from you. =( So, when i come over you really need to tell me all of this." WTF is there to breifly discuss???? Weve been done for two months!! What else could he possibly want? I told him to just text it to me and leave the game in the mailbox but he said "THIS ISNT SOMETHING IM WILLING TO DO ON THE PHONE!Its really important and i will not text it to you." Doesnt that sound like a game? Whats he trying to do here?

Sep 12 - 12AM
Miss_Jade
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I just dont understand how he

I just dont understand how he could tell me not to call him friend and get all pissed off about that, and then turn around and act like hes all protective about me and whatnot. Why is he continuing to bother me when its been OVER for 2 months now?
Sep 12 - 1AM (Reply to #4)
Done sourcing
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What dont you get about liar

What dont you get about liar cheat and thief. How about that mask we talk about. And the fact that they are disordered. Its like mentally ill, cancer of the personality. No cure...getting away for good is the only safe plan for us. Ignore any impulse you have to see him, talk to him, or have anything to do with him. If you have two months you already know all of this. I need to write it often to keep myself sharp and secure in my conviction and knowledge. NC is a discipline, like a spiritual practice. Figuring them out and getting clarity comes in waves, but the longer you stay away the clearer it all becomes. ds
Sep 12 - 2AM (Reply to #5)
Miss_Jade
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Oh i have NO desire to see

Oh i have NO desire to see this bastard, i am just angry cuz i thought id be done with this shit by now and hes back to his old shit. Its not happening. I guess it was more of a rhetorical question. I already know what he wants and how this is, its happened before. I dont want him around and i dont want to ever see him again. I wish hed just throw that stupid video game in the trash and leave me alone. Its done, over, and theres nothing we need to discuss together!!
Sep 11 - 2PM
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It's more manipulation. I

It's more manipulation. I suggest next time your out drinking give the phone to a friend! What you did happens, do not respond to him! If he shows up do not answer the door! If you see him he will manipulate you and you get to start this BS all over again! Your choice! The correct answer to your problem is DELETE! Hunter
Sep 11 - 2PM
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You got hurt before. You have

You got hurt before. You have showed him you are healing. He doesn't like that you will be fine without him. So on goes the mask and he is trying to get back close with you and get you hooked again. Then he will start the bullshit all over again, and you will be very mad at yourself for letting him talk to you, and for seeing him. We are fools for ever thinking we could trust these emotional bullies again. NC and no response is the best way to move forward. And they deserve NO EXPLANATION for what we are doing or thinking...it stopped being their business when they d and d'd us. Tell him nothing, give him no attention or supply at all. ds