I need your advice
I need your advice
I met my N at work. We are both women. She didn't know I was a lesbian when she began stalking me, she likes the challenge of seducing straight women. I later found out that she has a history of preying on women at work and laughs when they end up in therapy. To make a long story short, our relationship was always just emotional, highly charged, intensely emotional. Never physical, except for hugs.
To make a long story short, 2 months into it I found out she her "roommate" was her girlfriend of almost 2 years, though she still insists that she is just a roommate (LIE). I was already completely in love at that point and didn't end it.
2 months after that, I learned that she was having a relationship with a straight girl at work. We ALL work together! She continues to lie and say it's over but it's not. I watch this other woman going through the roller coaster of emotions that I used to... I say used to because I am totally aware that she has NPD. She fits everything about NPD perfectly. It still hurts terribly.
I try to distance myself from her, but she always comes after me. Flowery words, love talk, etc... I don't think one day has passed in the past 8 months that we haven't spoke, texted, etc... I can't do the no contact thing because we see each other 40 hours per week. She acts out at work when I ignore her which embarasses me and hurts me.
How can I disengage emotionally? I need my feelings for her to die. I can't watch her continue to do this with the other woman, even though she denies it... I can't quit my job, I can't transfer, in this economy it is simply not an option..
How can I cope at work? I'm in so much pain and have to hide it. How can I create emotional distance?
It gets worse!
herlatestvictim
Hard
Then they try to convince you it is actually good so accept less
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Been there big time herlatestvictim
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