I met a new guy!
I met a new guy!
So, I met a terrific guy in a coffee shop. We've been on a few dates. The second date I kissed him goodnight. Just a quick kiss not 'making out'. Why I did that, I don't know. Maybe because I've been alone for so long. Maybe because the exNh hadn't touched me in over a year before I kicked him out. So that makes it over two years without any 'attention' from a man.
He's a sweet guy! 10 years older than me. A grown-up. Very cute.
I'm worried. Damn!!
I can see all my problems. I'm so insecure. I think I'm fat and ugly- I know I'm not, but the exNarc has really done a number on me. I am watching every move this new guy makes. This is my inner dialog:
Why does he like me? I have kids! My boobs have breastfed many babies. Is he being too nice?
Does he drink too much? What is he hiding. Does be like me too much...
I'm scared. He's worried he's too old to start a family. And likes the idea about me having kids. I met his friends he stays with that have two kids and they love him, 25 years of friendship with this couple. So it seemed like he was credible. And he doesn't live in the area just comes up to visit every month. I'm glad about this because I need the space.
By the way, I don't know how to date! I met the Narc exH when I was a teenager and here I am today. I've never dated. And by the way, it's been over two years since I've had sex. It's not been easy for me! But I tried to focus on my health. It would be amazing to have a man again. Knowing all that I'm trying to not let my lack of sex control how I date. Does that make sense?
Any advice?
He really likes me, is that a red flag??
I literally feel like a teenager again and that scares me too.
I really see how screwed up I am. It's terrible!!
And at this point, if this new guy can't take me as I am then so be it. This is my first dating experience EVER. And I want many more dating experiences!!!
Thanks for listening to the crazy ramblings of a recovering victim of a Narc. When will they stop being there? And mine still tries to hover. I'm still watching my back when I hear a truck like his and he's still trying to get me to do things with him and the kids.
Thanks for listening.
Take it slow.. Start asking
Lily
Hi Lily
lilymarch
Lil, if anyone deserves a happy dating
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Lil, I just want to add...
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Darling Lillymarch sweetie, I
ok going to be the sour one here
no more, he's 10 years older
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yes thats why I said