I got confused..

Hi Hope everybody safe n happy new year !

Today I talked my best friend and we got confused...
Because me and my best friend have really bad relationship with our EX.
Her EX Hus was drug addict and her BF right now is alcoholic.
Me since I moved to USA first one is very abusive person ( mentally n physically)
Second one is drug addict and last one is Narc...
I read Lisa's book also checked forum 2 ( even may be I could understand 70% of English... :-( )
I understand that I didn't do anything wrong to my NARC.
But how about my choice?
Seems like I CHOOSE like that kind of people all the time...
I think I have problem 2 as same as them...
Do you feel urself same like me?