i feel vulnerable
i feel vulnerable
Day 2 of nc and its crossed my mind to send a text but not too strongly and I know I won't do it. But I feel if he were to contact me I'd cave. I know the outcome. I've been here numerous times. Maybe this is the final discard ? I've done well. I've not cried though. To be honest I've not cried over him in a long time. I'm numb. Is this normal ? I'd rather this than feeling devastated and suicidal as I did a year ago the the devaluation first began. That feeling subsided after he dumped me at christmas and the new year. I think boredom and lonliness are my worst enemies and this leaves me vulnerable. I don't want him to contact me yet I do. I know it would be dangerous because I'm in some CD and I'm still doing some magical thinking. But less of it. I feel a kind of eery calm because I am maybe finally getting to grips with the fact he's a narc. Though I still have moments of no he isn't. I just feel another long evening and night looming. I am scared to relax and have a glass of wine in case I crack. I'm scared that everyday of NC will get worse but I also feel a sense of relief and think now I can live again. The thing is I've lost touch with living. I've lost touch with reality. I feel like I just want someone to give me a big hug and tell me it will all be ok but I can't turn to anyone. I can't open up to anyone. I think I'm scared of what he might do next. I won't let him think he's broken me. He hasn't broken me yet and I know that the best revenge is to not let him see my pain and get on with my life and ignore him. This time he may accept that and leave me alone. He never has before though and imm scared of what he may do when he realises the usual tactics won't work anymore. Or I'm scared of myself incase the usual tactics do work ! I can't do this anymore. I can't go back again because you were all right. Every time you go back the abuse gets worse. The disrespect gets worse and I become more emotionally detached from him and life itself. Its so difficult to remain positive and strong. I can't help wondering what he's doing but I don't want to know either. Urgh !!!!
Me too, I feel so vulnerable
its scary
OMG!! You're getting
i hope so hunter !
its the total confusion
Indenial
I just got involved with the same N for the second time.
What was I thinking? Because I have put myself back to the same point where I am blaming myself again. And for what?
I want to get rid of these feelings again.
Inde, no matter how many
spinning
indenial...
indenial, sweety, I'm
spinning
thankyou
INDENIAL
I just got involved with the same N for the second time.
What was I thinking? Because I have put myself back to the same point where I am blaming myself again. And for what?
I want to get rid of these feelings again.
no more
INDENIAL
I just got involved with the same N for the second time.
What was I thinking? Because I have put myself back to the same point where I am blaming myself again. And for what?
I want to get rid of these feelings again.
37 years !