Ya, I'm quite sure the string of crazy exes latching on to the family treasures is endless...if the family haven't caught on to the fact that he's a liar by now, they never will. Why, dare I ask, is he depositing things that don't even belong to him at your house?
Hes a lazy mommys boy who uses anything he can...including non-human objects .I never asked for this crap at my house, he just brought it over and said his family doesnt mind. ALL BS I am sure.
His own mother years ago told me to leave him, and find a real man cuz he is a lil boy in his head. I wasnt sure at the time what she meant, plus he had already hooked me with his lies, warning me that his mom and family were "against him"...so I didnt believe her. Everyone was so against him, now all these same people are his new supply, and I am the enemy. Oh its just so damn pathetic, its making my eye twitch! ;)
Hell no you aren't a bitch! He owes you if you can get anything, take it. It will never come close to what he owes you. Who cares what his family thinks, they produced an psychopath a hole, they should be more concerned about that.. :)
and Karma, sometimes needs a kick in the pants to get moving, such as tossing stuff that was abandoned at your home...:)
Oh thanks Amiee :) I was raised with some morals, unlike his family. They are this evil COLD asian family, that believe emotions are BAD. His mom always called me crazy cuz I would cry or be upset. He almost killed me, and got a DV charge, and the BITCH had the nerve to say I ruined her sons record. He went violent on me, I didnt do that to HIM! She is mommy ultra narc, and she did produce this screwed up person that he is. INDEED! She is so abusive and manipulative, I use to witness it.
I just try my best to make things right, and not have bad karma, he owes me so much, things that money can never buy. He made the choice to bring the crap to my house, and then abandon us, and the stuff. he KNOWS I have a big heart, and am respectful, but I think this one final DISRESPECT is waranted!
Thanks beautiful ladies for opening my eyes once again.
MUCH LOVE, SG
Asian culture is a tough one to navigate. They are bound by a code of honor and they do not show emotion...very different from western culture, for sure. I don't think I could ever date a 1st or 2nd generation Asian man who lives here for those reasons. That he turned violent is what makes him a narc in my eyes.
Yea, throw the stuff out. No love lost at all there.
He was second gen, he told me that the second gen is "different and more Americanized" I totally bought that, but his mom is very traditional (Vietnamese), they did always give him crap for not dating in his race. He always tried so hard to not be like "ASIAN" I guess that is the way to put it?
But, the abuse his mother inflicted on him, was terminal.
She always talked about him, like he was an extention of HER, and HER status. He tried so very hard to please her, and she just put it down or said his sisters were better than he was, I am very empathic, so I just felt so bad for him. But my love wasnt suffice, to the scars that his mother caused him. I was trying to love him, harder, better than she ever did. honestly, I dont think she is loving to him at all. Its just a sad story, with no happy ending. Everything his Mother is, talked about or does is for IMAGE of the family. She even said she wished her nephew was her son, cuz he is better in school, and smarter. She created his bad image of himself, so he was destroyed WAY before I ever got to meet him. I once told him, that I wished I met him when he was younger , maybe I could of salvaged his soul with love.
It breaks my heart. And my father who is a NPD person too, same scenerio..his mother destroyed him.
Its a vicious cycle, and I wish to have a son one day to love him CORRECTLY, and then I will know there is at least one healthy man in the world. Ya know?
i will always feel bad for XN, but its not enough to keep spreading myself thin, loving a man that is not able to love back, or doesnt need the love from me, but needs it from his mother..he will never get it.
SO SAD.
Ya, I'm quite sure the string
Cuz
Hell no you aren't a bitch!
B.I.T.C.H.
Asian culture is a tough one
2nd generation Asain male