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#1 Dec 4 - 9PM
Blythebloo
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I did it.

Saw big moving truck in his driveway.
Got curious.
Logged into my sons fb page.
Saw pretty new pics of him and the OW together.
Now I:

Feel worthless
I hate him all over again.
The emotions came flooding back.
Started caring again. Why? This man physically abused me.
I hate that he looks so happy. I hate that she looks happy.
He lost his house in foreclosure (my fault for taking Him to court for child support) now he's shacking up with OW.

What does she have that i don't have? An empty space in her head?

Ugh yes I know contact equals pain. Back to square one. At least he isn't aware I broke NC.

Dec 5 - 6AM
Emma
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It's a long read but worth

It's a long read but worth it... http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/the-other-woman-other-man-t11909.html
Dec 4 - 10PM
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Blythe Boo...

Girllll stop that FB peeking! ;) Im being serious though, im guessing you blocked him for a reason off your fb so no peeking via your son! My message is simply "Don't believe the hype!" Smoke and mirrors my girl, "Smile for the camera Barbie" "Turn this way Barbie" Let the new host have her fun, remember idealisation? Mmm pity it only lasts a few months lol Don't envy something that is going to die a slow painful death let me try put this into perspective for you, six months ago i was DD'ed for OW... OW has just been handed her marching orders. Now knowing how ive "healed", how far ive come and how good i feel now.. would i have wanted to sell my soul for that piece of silver just to "look happy" on FB with him now knowing OW is probably typing her username and waiting for that confirmation email to this site as we speak?... Nahhhhhh ;) Eye of the Tiger Blythe xx
Dec 4 - 9PM
Gaia
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she will be at square 1 soon enough

I am sorry blythboo :( What she has at this moment is a psychopath. She is being trained, primmed and set up for devastation. It may not be something you see right now, well of course not. Remember what he did with you? You were not D&D, or his mask wasnt so clear at first.. feel VERY sorry for her. She has no idea what is coming. He just found another easy MARK. She is probably a sweet innocent giving soul, just as you are. They LOVE NO ONE. THEY CARE FOR NO ONE. He has to move quickly, and set up a new life, they can not be alone. It would be total suicide for them. They would be alone with their demons, and they can not have that. They are train wrecks, running over as many lives as they can. Parasites to the core. This "new life" he is establishing in front of you (oh how convienent, I am sure he is hoping you see, so he can prove just how lousy you are ..which is NOT TRUE!!) He has to keep up the personna, of "poor me", she broke me down but now I have you (OW) and my life is great! But, this is a facade, total CRAP. And she will soon be on this forum with you dear. Keep strong, and remember WHAT THEY REALLY ARE. Hugs, G
Dec 4 - 9PM
ReclaimingPower
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"What does she have that i

"What does she have that i don't have?" Weeks, months, potentially years of pain, chaos and mental anguish ahead of her. What does she have to look forward to? Questioning herself. Doubting herself. Not feeling good enough. Finding out he is calling other women. Finding out he is texting other women. Finding out he is seeing other women. Finding out he is sleeping with other women. Watching him live rent free off her. Watching him suck her dry and being stuck with him. Finding herself begging, not sleeping, not eating. And what do you have to look forward to: NONE OF THE ABOVE. xoxo
Dec 5 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
Blythebloo
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I am amused the new OW has me

I am amused the new OW has me blocked on Fb. I've known of her for almost 4 years and as soon as she couples with the narc I am blocked. I have never said 2 words to her. Heck me and the narc were supposed to double date with this same OW and her boyfriend at the time over the summer. He sure did pick somebody "Safe" as his next victim. She is clueless. Anyhow I am sure I am planted in her head as a threat and he is the farmer. He did the same to me with the ex before me. He pry told her how I still want him and yadda yadda yadda. In a sense it's his beginning of the cycle if control.
Dec 4 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
Sparrow
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Beautifully said Reclaiming!

Beautifully said Reclaiming! Beautifully said......... Don't fret.........the OW will be exactly where your at sooner than you think. Remember, the OW is irrelevant in your healing. Back to square one, but don't be so hard on yourself, you will be fine. Try not to look anymore. Nothing good can come of it. Stay strong!
Dec 4 - 11PM (Reply to #3)
nomoredenial
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awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

I understand the place you are in, it hurts . The only thing she has that you dont is a fake relationship with a N...it will end to. Peeking makes it worse. You see the happy image he is projecting, its the same one she is buying into. IT IS A PRETEND GAME he hasnt changed and you have for the better