I called the N out

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#1 Apr 14 - 2PM
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I called the N out

And he didn't go running for the hills...Wtf thats what I was hoping for.

I thought if he knew I saw him for what he is he wouldn't want me anymore??

I've been starving him of attention for weeks as well.

2 nights ago he was bitching as usual and I just said exactly what I've been thinking.

I told him I'm clearly not good enough for him. I can't cook right, drive right, smell right or see right to him.

His reply: I never said you weren't good enough. But its true you smell gas and you say its oil.

I told him he's not a real human he's a robot. He doesn't have emotions. His personality if flawed.

His reply: I'm human. What's the point of having emotions? You developed your personality when you're a little kid, I can't change it now.

I told him everything he says and does is q contradiction and everything from the beginning has been lies.

His reply: I had to lie in the beginning you weren't open minded (referring to me telling him I wouldn't be with him if he was using drugs)

I told him he's one big mind fuck. And just because he had a shit childhood doesn't mean our son has to have the same.

His reply: That's just how I am. And I don't give a fuck about you or him! But I would rather kill you then let you divorce me. You don't think I get lonely?

10 minutes later

Him: I'm sorry. I didn't mean what I said, I love you and our son. I don't want you to leave.

Me: You don't even know what love is. You just want me to stay because you don't believe in divorce and you get lonely sometimes.

And that was it. He went on with the evening acting like nothing was ever said and I should still be in love with him.

Wtf?? Why won't he go away? Any input would be awesome!

On a side note I am planning on moving out I'm just waiting for my parents to finish remodeling their bathroom.

Apr 15 - 12PM
dazed and seeki...
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that is a serious threat!

that is a serious threat! keep track of everything - if you don't have proof that he said it, well you do now since you posted on this board. but keep a journal. protect yourself. that is really scary, and we all think so, and i hope you see how crazy this man is as well. my N would NOT leave me alone even after realizing I see right through him. I outed him to his family. That did nothing. He still latches on. It's really crazy/strange/messed up how they don't respect our boundaries and will hang on like a leech and never let go... hang in there. and please stay safe!
Apr 15 - 8AM
kgirl
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Wow1....he is one big

Wow1....he is one big mindf--k! I'll be praying for safety and strength for you! ~KG
Apr 14 - 2PM
michele115 (not verified)
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Be EXTREMELY shrewd and cautious with your plans

His reply: That's just how I am. And I don't give a fuck about you or him! But I would rather kill you then let you divorce me. You don't think I get lonely? GET OUT, but make sure every duck is in a row, and prior to leaving, make a police report just in case, this to me was a threat. A VERY DANGEROUS threat...NARCS let the truth out, if we listen... LISTEN... AND BE VERY CAREFUL do not rock the boat and don't tell him what you're thinking...business as usual and don't let him on to your plans AT ALL. Seek advice of a Domestic Violence shelter and have a back up plan, have a bag packed, money everything...start making arrangements for a safe house just in case...you will need a network of support. Hugs!
Apr 14 - 2PM (Reply to #8)
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Michele

Thank you. I have my plan in place I'm just waiting on my dad now. I'm trying not to rock the boat but I want him to know how truly disgusting he is. Or I want him to discard me.
Apr 15 - 4AM (Reply to #11)
ImStrong
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Save those texts please..for

Save those texts please..for the police..hes dangerous omg

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Apr 15 - 10AM (Reply to #12)
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I wish these were texts. He

I wish these were texts. He had this conversation with me while I was in the shower.
Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #9)
michele115 (not verified)
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B...

Narcs know two emotions FEAR and RAGE...you don't want him to know how disgusting he is or for him to discard you UNTIL you are somewhere safe... AND even then...best to let him walk off into the sunset without rattling the cage... We don't have a diagnosis on him at least an official one...and there really is no telling what he would do in retaliation. Your exiting and getting to safety should suffice as a message and you will be free soon. Hugs!
Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #10)
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Michele

You are right. I'm not sure if he's all talk or if he would actually try something. I'm just now getting in touch with my anger and I want him to know what a piece of shit he is. Essentially I want to mindf*ck him until he goes off on his merry way! I can't wait to be free!
Apr 14 - 2PM
Steph
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Wow. It always amazes me how

Wow. It always amazes me how obvious they are.....from an outsiders perspective. I mean, I am not brainwashed by him, nor do I have feelings for him....so to me, I can see CLEARLY how f'd up his words are. But when you are the one in it, it's confusing and not so obvious. Really shows the impact of being brainwashed. EVERYTHING he has said is backwards....he HAD to lie because you weren't "open minded"....to him doing drugs?! He'd rather kill you than be divorced from you?.....that;s a sick thing to say. And then he adds "you don't think I get lonely?"......all about HIM, once again. This man is textbook, I think! I'm happy you are leaving. How much longer till your parent's reno's are done? You need out of there, FAST!
Apr 15 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
gettinbetter
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Everything they say is

Everything they say is backwards,inverted or opposite. It has to do with the mirroring thing. Silence is always them screaming Hoovering is about abandoning you eventually Hate is about love and love is about hate They cant have sex with someone they "believe" they love but can have sex with a complete stranger. In Narcville its all upside down, opposite and inverted. When you begin to apply that principle to the things they say you begin to see the true meaning in their communications
Apr 14 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
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Staying Strong

Thanks for replying! It's encouraging for me to hear his words are so twisted and I'm not crazy! I no longer have feelings for him and watch him like my little marc science experiment. Hopefully within 2 weeks I will be out of there. I'm just wondering why he's not discarding me now that his mask is gone?
Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Steph
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He may not be discarding

He may not be discarding you....yet....but he will. It's all about conrtol. He wants things on HIS terms. He wants to be the one to end it, not you. They really are that predictable. And you, are NOT crazy! two more weeks, hey? Do you have a friend you could stay with in that time? I hate to think you are being exposed to him for 2 more weeks!
Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
prettypeeved
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Yes, he will end it if he

Yes, he will end it if he possibly can. If he senses you want to end it, he'll do it first just so he can be the one to do it.
Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
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Staying Strong & Prettypeeved

I truly don't think he will end it with me. If I end it he can be the victim and I can be the bad guy who walked out on him.