I blocked him!

huge step forward!

NC works best when it's total NC...more than you not contacting them, it's preventing them from contacting you. I am not sure why I have found myself unable to just block his emails completely, I still have them "filtered" into an email folder that I don't see unless, like today, I happen to be sorting work-related emails. The N emailed me this morning. I have not seen him since January, have not emailed him since April, and have been NC since mid-April. I have received emails and texts from him...first they were sucking up type polite emails, then they were more demanding of me to contact him, the last was very neutral in tone, with him emailing me late at night wanting to know if I was "available to talk"...that was 10 days ago...and now this morning I got an email from him that is I suppose his way of exacting a D&D on me without my active participation via a response. I am a real estate agent, I was even his real estate agent for several years. I have never refused a real estate related favor of him, and he knows how much I love helping people. This morning, he emailed me to let me know a friend of his was looking for a house to rent and could I direct him to a link where he could search. He made sure to mention she is a single mom with one child, so whether it is his new supply or not, certainly he wants me to think so. In just a few sentences, he managed to convey his intent to injure me...this would not be a new tactic for him...he's done similarly hurtful things before...except this time he is not going to get a response from me. I still can't bring myself to block his emails...it is a morbid fascination at this point, to watch his pathology progress. I am not flattered in any way that he is still hoovering for supply from me after 6 months...rather, I am bothered by it, and bothered that his emails still provoke some sort of an anxious feeling in me, however I see his behavior for what it is; a pathetic attempt at a D&D. I am the one that got away, and I am staying away. The description of his "friend" (I was once a "friend" too) does not fit any of the people I would have suspected as source of potential or recycled supply for him, so perhaps it really has taken him all this time to target a new source. His email to me was utterly see-through in what it was meant to convey. I realize he is not going to just let go and let me be, not if he feels I have given him some sort of narcissistic injury. Again, I do not know why I have not just gone ahead and blocked his emails...for whatever reason, it seems important to me to observe his strange behavior. I think it validates for me that he is an N. and is behaving like a N. I also think that a paper trail demonstrating his continued attempts at contact might be important, should he continue to reach out to me with "work-related" reaasons...eventually, I would be able to show a pattern and call it harassment, which is what it already is. There is really no escaping him going through other agents to indirectly "get" to me or using people in need of real estate services to reach out to me for what he may justify as legitimate "work-related" reasons. This whole thing just makes me wish I had never met him to begin with. If only I knew then what I know now, and saw the signs for what they were sooner.

I'm doing a happy dance for you!

Welcome to Fantasy Island! My three words, Delete,Delete,Delete Hunter

LMAO! Why would you be stealing his mail? hahahaha! What a loon. I'm sorry you have to deal with this jerk on an ongoing basis.