I am starting my First real attempt @No Contact Today......
I am starting my First real attempt @No Contact Today......
I made it out once before, & maintained limited contact w/my narc. For about two years (after a 5yr. "Relationship")......We got back together 6months ago, & I feel like Im worse off than before just because Everyone warned me that people Dont change. I wanted to believe that I hadnt wasted 7yrs. Of my life w/him, struggling to make it work, & the torture of getting away from him. Even on the two yr. Break I never really healed, was never able to even date w/out my prison time w/him tainting every new relationship I considered. Anyway, Ive told him numerous times that I will not allow him to do certain things that I allowed in the past. & Ive warned him several times "This is It!" & Im at the end of my rope, etc.- but now Ive made some empty threats that clearly were not followed through on. So I texted & left voicemail that Last Nite was the final straw & Im done....So, Now I am worried because I know that it is like a sickness, the Compulsion to contact the narc. & I spent a lot of time in the past trying to prove somthing to him, or I just Had to say One More Thing, Just Had To make sure he Understood....I realize its the equivalent of banging my head into a wall, so- What advice do you guys have on counteracting these compulsions-to-contact when they arise??? What can I do to get through the days/nites so that I dont call or text? I have my daughter w/me, so the daytime is not so bad- but the nites are hard. Usually when he knows hes done something that I think is fkd up, he'll avoid me for a bit, to not deal w/me trying to discuss it, but Ive never made it beyond 4 or 5 days w/no contact......
Thanks So Much Everyone for the posts....
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