I allow myself
I allow myself
I posted this in the other threat, but I thought this might be worth opening a special threat for that.
first thanks for all the responses, they all helped me alot. And the boddom line seems to be make peace with where you are, and allow yourself to go through it...again.
And after having a minute a suicidal thought again, thinking thats my lowest point again, I decided to clean it up all NOW...to find any relief..any.
So I decided some things. And yes it brought me relief.
1. I allow myself to be angry.
2. I allow myself to be selfish and thinking only about me.
3. I allow myself to be not liked by some people.
4. I allow myself to be a selfish screwy girlfriend, friend, daughter, sister, if that means I can only protect myself in that way by annoying others...so be it.
5. I allow myself to NOT fight for anyone anymore, to make them feel better, to improve them, to save them, to heal them, to fix them, I allow myself to give those things up.
6. I allow myself to not trying to manifest again the happy vision I had once with me and the narc...I allow myself to give that up.
7. I allow myself to be sloppy, unemployed, a looser who still needs help from family...yes I was left alone with 16 and fighted since then to get along in life alone, now I allow myself to NOT get along alone in life, and I let my family help me in every way they can, and I wont feel guilty about that. Its my right, I allow myself to feel entitled to that.
8. I allow myself to be a nasty daughter, as my father probrably thinks now of me, cause HE now has to pay back my study credit. He never payed anything for me, left me alone my since 16, didnt care if I have enough to eat, now its time for HIM to pay the price for that. No lawyer he can exploit, but a daughter who didnt make it as a lawyer, cause HE didnt care how I finish my study. Karma bus.
9. I allow myself to accept it, lets say its true, I am not good enough for the N, not beautiful, not interesting, not successful enough, too needy, too crazy, too eratic, too ugly...whatever it was for him...so be it, then I am not good enough for him..so what. I'll be good enough for myself, and that'll be enough for now.
10. I allow myself to give up for now on any romantic thoughts, kids, family...I give it up. I can also live alone and having a dog...they at least always love you.
11. I allow myself to demand to have only nice friends. I will not accept any screwy wishy washy friendship anymore. Even if that means I am an intollerant, screwed up person, so be it.
12. I allow myself to be oversensitive, overreactive.
13. I allow myself to have weird unexplainable love feelings towards the N, even if I cannot find any logical reason anymore why he shall be so lovable, but from time to time I still feel it.
14. I allow myself to look sloppy, with my casual clothes, and I allow myself to reject any stupid questions about what I am doing right now, cause I am not doing anything but healing.
15. I allow myself to have a weird past, full of drama, pain and suffer, and much more experience than the everage in my age. Yes thats not like in a happy sunshine rainbow movie...with daddy taking care his daughter gets a good man...yes it was screwed up all the way. So be it.
So be it all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is something so
wow
nh22
You know what Jen? I think
I think so too Brie
9. I allow myself to accept
becsta
I allow myself to be a poltergeist...
Susan
A little strangeness...
Poltergeists: Full of awesome
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