I have tried all kinds of therapy and what has helped me the MOST EVER has been a hypnotist. In fact I went at first for some jealousy issues and I began to heal a lot of stuff and that is when his mask melted off. I cared more about me than him for the first time and I started to see clearly. It really gets to the bottom of the pain. I was at the point that I wanted out but couldn't quit get there. I saw her maybe 3 times and made a plan that the next time he threatened to leave I would take him up on it. (and more importantly stick to it, i knew he was counting on me begging him to come back like I had so many times) That day came and I said yip you should leave, he left while I was at work and although I seemed calm to him,,I panicked and I called her an made an appt. She got me in that day. I will share what happened there even though its really personal so that you can see how it works. Its truly amazing.
When I went in she asked me what was coming up and I said my fear of being alone and feeling like I deserved his treatment. So we got started and I went to an old memory that i had forgotten, my dad was drunk and he was on one side of the kitchen with me and my mom and sisters were on the other , he was slapping me over and over telling me I was worthless and I deserved it, all I kept thinking was how alone I was and that I wanted to be with my mom and sisters. When she asked me what I was learning from this I answered that I was worthless and alone and bad things happen when I am alone. It was so amazing to see this. Of course the next step was to reframe it and replace it with positive images. It really begins to change immediatly. When I left the desire to call when from a 90 (where it had been all day 90 to about 10....It was the first time I was able to follow through and not beg him back. It has been 3 months. I have been to 2 more sessions, the last one took me back to abuse with my dad and in it I was afraid to recognize that it was abuse because then I had to see my dad in a bad light, we finally got me there after some resistance. About 2 days later the ex came back, I let him in 2 times...felt like out of habit but for the first time I was like ewwwww this is bad. I told him you know what...this isn't going to work, I feel bad when I am around you, that was almost 2 weeks ago and I feel NO urges to call him ect. We have kids together and I have to text him for kid stuff but I FEEL it completely that I am done with him.
I highly recommend it. This is who I go to, I recommend one who is more on a spirituality tip but I'm sure many would be could. I interviewed my first one and didn't get a good feel then found her. http://www.lexiparrott.com/
Zzcem and Nomoredenial.
I found hypnotherapy to be excellent, and indeed I would say it was vital to the recovery curve from N-trauma. The therapist (a man) was first class.
I think there can be misconceptions about what exactly hypnotherapy is.
A description:
"Everybody experiences trance differently - it is a unique experience, but the client is always in control. In general a hypnotic trance is a pleasant, relaxing and tranquil experience. While hypnotised you will be aware of all physical sensations around you, perhaps even noticing sounds you wouldn't otherwise be aware of."
"Hypnotherapy is a brief strategic therapy - one that is aimed specifically at finding a resolution to your problem as quickly, safely and efficiently as possible. It is not a long drawn out method of solving a problem. A skilled hypnotherapist will have the ability during a case study to ascertain whether you need to regress back to find the root of the problem, or whether it is more applicable to use future progression techniques to change tomorrow. "
I was interested in the progression techniques, because in my case there weren't many options except get back in the saddle right quickly. The therapy was immensely helpful I found.
Hermes
No I'm sorry, I've never tried that, but regarding hypnotism...: I did sometimes have the feeling that the N (!) was trying to hypnotize me. He would demand that I looked him straight in the eyes at certain moments and he would have this weird, weird look in his eyes. I would always avoid his gaze, it was very creepy
YES YES and YES
Yes! Very good.
nomoredenial thank you
No I'm sorry, I've never