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#1 Oct 9 - 6AM
grossot
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hurtful things

For whatever reason, every few days or so, a sworm of hurful things he said to me before and during the d&d come into my head. I have to get them out. Idk- maybe I'm looking for sypathy but I know this is a safe place to do it.

1) At least I fu**ed you in the ass

2)What gives you the right to tell him? (Re: my threats to tell the misstress' husband of the affair)

3) Your character will never change

4) You interrupt too much

5) I can make her orgasm multiple times and it makes me feel good about myself

6) He put up a picture of her kids on our frige after I knew of the affair.

7) He set it up for me to go to dinner and movies and parties with him and misstress and our children before I knew.

8) We ran into her in the mall after I knew and she knew that I knew and he looked like he was foing to punce her- didn't give me the time of day

9) I told you I was going to hurt you

10) Told me of other affairs he's had during our 7 year marriage and said we'll look back at this and laugh

11)If I'm such a horrible person why did you tell your friends I cooked and cleaned all the time?

Arrrgggg! Barbara- you speak fluent Narc - what do you make of this?

Oct 9 - 7AM
grossot
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more- wish i could get these out of my head

Your stomach's finally flat While watching victoria secret runway models: "you look like her but wou don't have abs like that" So and so (his proxy) took better care of me when I had my tonsilectomy. You're boring. I don't love you. I can't even love you as the mother of my child anymore... ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled

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Oct 9 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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what he said vs. what he really means

fluent narc? LOL - don't know if that's a skill to be proud of... but here goes: At least I fu**ed you in the ass All women are just warm plumbing to me What gives you the right to tell him? (Re: my threats to tell the misstress' husband of the affair) WAAAHHH!!! You caught me!! Now I need to make you feel guilty Your character will never change I can't manipulate you any more. You interrupt too much I can't mind control you with word salad if you keep stopping me. Dang! I can make her orgasm multiple times and it makes me feel good about myself All women are just warm plumbing to me. Sex is the only thing I care about. He put up a picture of her kids on our frige after I knew of the affair. I enjoy having no boundaries, no shame and hurting you!!! He set it up for me to go to dinner and movies and parties with him and misstress and our children before I knew. Oh, triangulation & chaos - I can hurt multiple people at the same time and it makes me feel good!! yeee haaa! We ran into her in the mall after I knew and she knew that I knew and he looked like he was going to punch her- didn't give me the time of day I love hurting women. They are just objects to me. I told you I was going to hurt you It's everyone's fault but mine that I'm a sick piece of dung Told me of other affairs he's had during our 7 year marriage and said we'll look back at this and laugh I can do whatever I want with whoever I want and get the bonus of hurting as many people as I like. Go me! If I'm such a horrible person why did you tell your friends I cooked and cleaned all the time? I will now try to make my lack of morals equivalent with being helpful around the house. Your brain jello yet? Your stomach's finally flat I only care about looks... because I have the depth of a puddle. While watching victoria secret runway models: "you look like her but you don't have abs like that" How can I make you feel bad? So and so (his proxy) took better care of me when I had my tonsilectomy. ME ME ME... oh and don't forget - ME! You're boring. I'm done using you. I don't love you. I can't love anyone but somehow if I make it your fault I can get off on upsetting and hurting you. I can't even love you as the mother of my child anymore... Once I'm done using and abusing people - they are meaningless to me. NEXT! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Oct 9 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
Ellen
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translations are good

Hi, Well those translations really were funny. Don't get me wrong the topics are nice but what he is doing and how Barbara put it made me laugh. I also need to know this today cos i've been having a couple of memories and it made me feel bad earlier. Then i said well who knows what he did and when and in time i will forget and it won't matter. For now i will just have to accept that these things happened. It made me feel humiliated- i have no proof of anything just odd feelings of knowing. Unless i want to turn into a private detective i think i am just going to have to feel that way until it goes and won't matter anymore. The humilitation that i was set up sometimes with triangulation feels awful but that wasn't what my ex intended cos i'm not supposed to know so it really was about a boost for him. Good for him if thats what he needs, not at my extent anymore. All of the behaviour just looks bad on him and anyone who buys into it must have no morals like him and i don't ever want to meet them so it won't effect me. Those situations of having to go out with the mistress without knowing and then have photos on the fridge are disgusting and lowlife behaviour. Well it's helped me to realise that having the housework done can cover a multitude of sins, maybe its good for the show and the cover up of the reality of what they know themselves to be. Does it ease their guilt. I went to a pub restaurant with my ex and my daughter. The landlord wrote my ex's surname in the book and said 'oh yes (said the surname) i know it well. He then looked up and saw me and the end of the sentence drifted off. I felt strange. When my ex left i remembered this occasion, he said he had only been there with me. It feels odd though. I have thought about going there and asking if he had been there but i decided not to cos what will it do anyway.
Oct 9 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
Amazed
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What upper hand

Dang that guy is an incredible jerk.,,I am so proud of that girl for reaching out for help.