~HUGE Awakening~
~HUGE Awakening~
So I DUMPED narc about 4 weeks ago TODAY. Haven’t spoken to him in 2.5 weeks. Complete NC for 1 week. I feel like I won a Gold Medal!
I have tried to say that I was strong enough and I wouldn’t crave him etc. But I have had serious urges and almost did a one point- but thanks to the help of the forum, buddies from here, friends and family I was able to not break NC.
For the past hmmm 4 days or so I’ve been having this serious urges to hear from him or to at least send him a blank text see if I’d get a response (crazy- I know) but I was talked out of it =) This morning I decided to block call (no intent of speaking to him) as soon as I heard his voice something flipped in my head... The next thought that came to mind was “EWW and WTF was I thinking and HE was BLESSED to ever be able to call me his gf let alone be seen with me) First of all he sounded like shit, secondly I realized just how shitty of a person he is just from the way his voice sounded- the voice I once loved, thought was the sexiest and could listen to for hours on end- all of a sudden became a voice I NEVER want to hear again.
I have spent days beating myself up for ever getting involved with a NPD, Drug Addict, Convicted Felon POS… Then I spent additional days questioning why hasn’t he contacted me? And wishing he would... Then I spent even more days OBSESSSING, STALKING, CRAVING him… Until today.
*I feel like for the first time in the past month, I finally feel like I did the right thing, that I’m doing the right thing! A light bulb blew up in my face & head and it’s still there! I regret WASTING all these days, hours, minutes, seconds, doing all that crap because those are days, hours, minutes, seconds that I’ll NEVER get back!!!*
Right after I went NC, I promised some very important people in my life I would NEVER try to contact him ever again and while some may view today as contact- I view it as closure! I had no intent of speaking to him and I honestly hope he thinks I’m dead (since I haven’t contacted him) and never contacts me again in this lifetime or any other. Today I told a friend: If I can’t stay NC for me, I should at least do it for the friend of mine who’s trying to get a divorce from a narc, my best friend who’s ex I believe was a narc, for all the women on here and for all the shit I personally went through!!!
Stay Strong you guys!!! It’s hard- we all know it- but the deadweight will be lifted day by day… it feels better day by day! PM me if any of you need anything!
Kiwi
Mynewlife2011
Olympian Strength
Adoette
Keep moving forward! So far
Kiwi, I love this:
<3 Goldie