How is this for Pathetic

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#1 Oct 1 - 8AM
onwithmylife
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How is this for Pathetic

I was trying to so hard to please the man, literally turning myself into a pretzel, that I use to go over every week on my days off to stay with him, he lived in another town from me. Anyway he had some type of hair fetish and sometimes i did not pick up every strand of hair after I showered, we are not talking about piles of hair,mind you, so anyway he use to complain about that and one even said,I don't think you should come over anymore if you cannot pick up all your hair. a normal person would probably do it,no comment, no big deal, right? So one morningI am showering and he is still in bed and after I go to dry my hair, i bring a chair over and sit just outside the bathroom to dry my hair so he won't complain about it in the bathroom or shower., lo and behold he comes out of the bedroom and says in a stern voice,"What are you doing?" I said I brought a chair to use to dry my hair outside the bathroom so you won't keep bitching at me about my hair. Like a father he says go back into the bathroom and gives ME a look like I am crazy!!!???? I know there will be weirder stories than mine, but just felt the need to share with you, hope someone out there gets a good laugh over this, it is oIDIOTIC to say the least, in the bigger scheme of a relationship.........

Oct 1 - 11AM
Susan32
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The depths of pathetic

The ex-Psych professor would verbally abuse me in class... after my grandfather died from cancer. Attacking someone who's grieving, and who's your student--that takes pathetic to whole new depths. He said I was "preoccupied with trivialities" (to quote Tolstoy, this is the Narc Prince Andrei's reason for abandoning his wife) and did not know how to "manage my feelings."
Oct 1 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
ShaynasMommy
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Susan,

I'm curious, did this "person" ever get called on the carpet for his public behaviour in class. I don't know if you would report him, but he had to have abused someone else to some degree at that school. How come, if he was that outrageously abusive, he flew under the radar? Did the administrators all have thier heads up their butts or something?
Oct 1 - 12PM (Reply to #8)
Susan32
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He got tenure

The ex-P claimed I was "hitting on him." When I declared my love to him, he'd move his classes from one room to another as if he were the victim. I was frankly too scared to come forward. The male professors who I think called him out were the ones who, mysteriously, didn't get tenure. 3 years after the D&D, the ex-P got tenure. His parents are living with him now. I never did report him. From what I've heard of my alma mater, things have gotten worse. A girl was expelled for suffering from depression and anorexia. When she needed HELP, she got booted out. The ex-P's colleagues avoided him. I'm sure when he married the OW and had kids (they turned 2 when he got tenure),he had such a visage of normality they gave it to him.
Oct 1 - 8AM
helldweller
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pathetic

That is so ridiculous. The last time the narc had my daughters and me over to his house was St. Patrick's Day 2009. We made hot dogs on the grill and came inside to eat. As the kids sat down I went in the kitchen to refresh our drinks and he started screaming at me that "Eric hasn't eaten yet. Can you PLEASE come and sit down and get the drinks LATER!!!!!!" Then we ate (I had brought all the food of course), and there was a bag of chips that, after dinner, I closed by folding the top over. He let out this HUGE sigh, opened the bag, folded the top down carefully four times, in equal measures, then went and got a very small piece of Scotch tape and taped the fold to the bag. Then he said, "I don't think you should come over anymore. It's too upsetting for Eric." This was the same night I found all of my daughters and my photos in his underwear drawer, having been taken down and REPLACED by photos of the child and him.
Oct 1 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
onwithmylife
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helldweller

I do not know whether to laugh or cry, these men are so insane and yet have similiar traits, it is almost unbeleivable isn't it?..................and to think THEY DO NOT GET IT, talk about operating in your own world that gives the expression a whole new meaning
Oct 1 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
ewa
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I could not watch movies

I could not watch movies without him. When he was busy with sth after work, like studding languages or being on Internet it was taking hours. I was tired after work so i watched movies as i could not speak to him. I just love to do it. My mind is relaxing then and for an hour i am in different world. He used to complain that i watch movies to much and instead i should be working on myself. It was fine when we watched them together, but usually after a while if it was me to pick what we watch , he was getting bored and openly showing it to me.
Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
onwithmylife
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ewa

guess what if he wanted to watch something and i was not that keen on it I would go ahead and watch so we could be together, normal, right. But if I wanted to watch something and he did not like it, he would go into another room, how is that for caring??!!!HE DID ONLY WHAT HE WANTED TO DO, TO HELL WITH MY WISHES
Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
almostlydia
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This is one of the things I

This is one of the things I think about now that he is finally gone - If he were here, I'd never be watching this (something I love) or if he were here, I'd never be doing this, something I love. It goes on and on. It made me realize how many of the things I loved that I had given up because of him. It's a good thing to think about when you're think you're missing him:) almostlydia

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