How to maintain NC
How to maintain NC
Hi Ladies, I am new and left my NARC 2 weeks ago. He dropped me @ work and I was sposed to plan leaving carefully cos we lived in a room @ his brothers place so it was difficult to just pack up and leave.
Few days before I left I had already managed to get a friend to take me to the Divorce Council (moslem) so I could apply for a divorce. I knew I needed to move out before the letter was posted to notify him of my intention.
So he drops me @ work and is already suspicious and I tried to act normal but frankly..im not a good actor like he clearly was. He hung around outside my work but I called my friend and slipped out the back and called my parents to fetch me. It was a relief! I was able to speak to my sisters which I had been extremely close to but he destroyed that.
My father wants me to get a protection order against him since he gets friends (which voices I clearly recognize) to call my parents and make all sorts of trouble (then he blatantly denies it when I tell him I know what he is up to) and he refuses to give my Identity Doc, Passport or drivers license when his family saw him remove it from the room we lived in after I had left.
I tried begging him for it but he just denies having it. However my father feels I should not change my cell no and 'make my world smaller for any1' but now its frustrating cos he sends msgs from time to time and I get angry and msg him back but I have now realised its pointless because you can tell a NARC he is a thief and liar and he will still tell you 'No I am not'
How do you get over the quiet waiting when ur phne rings or beeps hoping it might be him. I dont contact him though. Should I rather not just change my no so I know I dont have to expect a msg or call cos he wont have the new number?
Our meeting @ the divorce council is on the 10th, standard procedure...where they hear his side and my side...he will probably deny every lie he ever told me and in our religion when the wife applies for the divorce it can take up to a year to be granted. She needs to have sufficient proof...SUCKS BUT OK!
Do u guys try to keep busy? I bake and cook cos I love it so it passes time and my 4 year old kps me very busy but Im on work leave now so have alot of time on my hands...find my thoughts wandering everytime to him...frustrating
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