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How do I recover my property - including my dog

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#1 Apr 3 - 5AM
skystar
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How do I recover my property - including my dog

I've had a lot of time to think about the last 5 years and the fact that I am nearly broke.

I'm in love with the wonderful, loving man, not the con artist, nacissist that preys on women. I haven't lost/ given away everything yet -- but close to it. Actually - he and I drank most of it.

I am finally through with alcohol abuse - his and mine. I'm through with the almost constant demands for attention, through with the yelling, shouting, demeaning, downright cruel, "I'm always right", fight picking person that he really is. Constantly planning, targeting, marking the next candidate, then picking a fight so he is free to pursue another deep pocket..

I was the best thing that happened to him - I'll always be. But the key word is 'happened".

My life to the time I met him did not prepare me for him - my husband's were honorable men and they loved me unconditionally. Maybe that's why I was such easy prey. I started drinking pretty heavily after my third husband died of cancer.

Its all about HIM. He keeps coming back, like a bad penny. He is the classic narcissist, without class and with an meager income.

He took my dog out of my car, when the ambulance carried me away - he is not physically abusive, I fell and hit the porch and on a blood thinner, I bled and bled. Its my dog, not his. He will try to use her to control me even more. I have not spoken to him since before the fall.

At 68, I have to find the strength now to move on. I have to change my life (again) and my friends. I deserve better treatment than he has given me.

How can I reclaim my property without going through more hell?

Please - no contact - please. I don't want him near or around my property. Do not STAY AWAY FOREVER. We cannot be friends.

Apr 3 - 10AM
Hunter
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Sky

Nice guy! You are going thru a tough time. If he is not abusing the dog let him keep it. He has the dog to control you. He wants you to beg for all of it. You can get new things and get a new dog. There are tons of homeless dogs who need love. You can provide that for a new little pooch, If you end up getting the dog back you'd have 2 Dogs. Is that such a bad thing? LEt me tell you my dogs are better than any man. :) Be strong Idealk
Apr 3 - 9AM
OnlyChild49 (not verified)
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Reclaiming Your Property/Dog

I'm going to address the dog issue. If you have documents showing the dog is yours, I'd call an animal control officer or other law enforcement person to see what they had to say. Perhaps they could help you or go with you to get your pet. If you do go to law enforcement, ask them about other property also. Personally, I would document everything in writing and if attempting to retrieve stuff, have someone with you for safety and a witness. I suspect you will probably have to experience some "hell", as you put it, to get back what is yours. That seems to be the way it goes with Ns. I would say the sooner, the better so you can get it over with and on with your life. Then you can really go NC. As I see it, your other option is to just let everything go and start over. At 68 that's a lot more difficult (I'm 62) than if you were younger. But one has to play with the cards they are dealt. My second H left me when I was going thru very difficult menopause and attempting to care for my elderly Mom. It took me several years to get back on my feet. Golden Years, my foot!!! LOL!!
Apr 3 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
skystar
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I was thinking of another

I was thinking of another part of my anatomy. I've been robbed of those "golden years". My second (24 years) and my third (5 years) husbands died of cancer. And this asshole (lung cancer) and I have to fight for what belongs to me? He better not ever darken my door again.