Hovering Affects
Hovering Affects
There are some that experience hovering, and some that don't. Members who believe that others are lucky they are being hovered, because that must show that their narcs at least miss them and care about them, couldn't be further from the truth.
There are also some that are experiencing hovering, and find that once this stops, that they are lost all over again. This happen because you are addicted to this act of attention as you were attracted to the illusions he had presented to you to begin with. We find that we will take any attention, good or bad, because we are grasping at straws, holding on as tight as possible, hoping that one day, our narc will have a revelation and all will be right with the world again.
This will never happen. Nothing will ever change, just their tactics and their antics. If they cant get what they want from you one way, they will get it from you eventually another way. This is their mindset, and they will be more determined than ever to suck you back into their world, regaining their source of supply. Be warned, that allowing them to suck you back in, and give it another go, will only result in a harsher D & D the next time around. Each time you go back for more, you come out with less, and less.
So, anyone that admires another because they are being hovered, don't. Being hovered makes your journey 100 times harder to get through. Be thankful your narc is leaving you alone. don't take it personally, that he is not seeking you out, trying to get you back into his good graces. The attention that you believe you receive from hovering, is just a quick fix for your ego and your broken heart. It is not positive attention at all, and it can be detrimental to your healing.
Next time you find yourself envious of another member because they are being hovered, their narc must really love them or miss them and mine didn't, you couldn't be more wrong. Count your blessings that you are not experiencing this tactic. :)
Thank you Sparrow
Mine was the Emperor of the Hoover
Amen to that Sparrow!
yes!
Very well said Sparrow! I'm
Journey on...
So true!
I also was recently hoovered!
No truer words were said Sparrow.
Hoovered not hovered!
" Each time you go back for
Greengirl, continue to fight