Hover after NC?

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#1 Nov 7 - 10AM
Peacenlove
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Hover after NC?

Hi everyone. I am doing really well with NC now after 1.5 years of his narc BS. We worked together and the "relationship" went through all the textbook phases: Idealize, devalue and discard with several hovers after the discards followed by periods of silent treatments. I heard every excuse when he became distant. It was my fault of course. Fast forward to August, he decided to take a new job so he wanted to dangle the carrot right before he left. I was skeptical but a small part of me was still hopeful. I sent him a text a week after he started his new job to ask how it was going. I changed my cell number so he did not recognize it and he thought I was someone else. The text said, "Are we still going out tonight." He's already working on a new victim I assume. So I have remained total NC for 9 weeks now. I have blocked him from every possible form of communication except my work email (he is still on contract so I have no control over blocking company email addresses). I am bracing for the hover when he gets bored with his new toy. He's never begged or apologized or promised to change when he hovers. It's never that overt. What has your experience been? Do they always hover?

Nov 8 - 6AM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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Lizbritt

Nov 12 - 8PM (Reply to #22)
Peacenlove
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Indirect hover?

Nov 7 - 4PM
Laci423
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lizbritt

Nov 7 - 4PM
LisaD123
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Hi Lizbrit

Nov 7 - 3PM
Laurelly82
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Hello lizbritt

Nov 7 - 3PM (Reply to #18)
Peacenlove
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As I said, I was skeptical

Nov 7 - 2PM
Hunter
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Reading thru this.. You are

Nov 7 - 3PM (Reply to #13)
Peacenlove
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How am I looking for a way to

Nov 7 - 3PM (Reply to #14)
Hunter
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Negative vs reality..2

Nov 7 - 4PM (Reply to #15)
Peacenlove
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Actually, I'd prefer that he

Nov 7 - 5PM (Reply to #16)
Hunter
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Mine is dead.. At least to

Nov 7 - 1PM
pumpkinpie
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I work with exN as well and

Nov 7 - 12PM
Used
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lizbritt

Nov 7 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
Peacenlove
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No, not so. He was in the

Nov 7 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
Used
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lizbritt

Nov 7 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
Peacenlove
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My cell plan was changed due

Nov 7 - 3PM (Reply to #9)
Peacenlove
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I will word this better: I

Nov 7 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
ItsFinallytime
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Hi Lizbritt. I think that

Nov 7 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
Peacenlove
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I was asking for feedback

Nov 8 - 3AM (Reply to #8)
talktothehand
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Lizbritt

Nov 7 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
Taralynn
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Texting

Nov 7 - 11AM
Hunter
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Why are really asking this