Holding on to Hurt
Holding on to Hurt
I don't know exactly what made me realize this, but I realized that I'm holding on to my hurt by the narc because it's the only thing left of him I have.
CharlieSheenWinning married another woman 3 weeks after I broke things off with him. He'd only known her for 3 weeks (hard to believe, but yes, that's true). Since I heard this I've been in a tailspin of CD. My pride is severely wounded because he was able to move on so fast and so completely. Since then I've heard that the relationship is based on "drinking and sex."
It hurts, but I realize that the hurt is the last link I have with CharlieSheenWinning, and as long as I hold on to that hurt, I'm holding on to him. I've been totally NC since I broke things off. He's been NC because he's wrapped up in NewWinningWife.
But I still haven't been able to let go. I don't want him, he doesn't want me, but I still can't let him go. As long as I have the hurt I am still attached to him.
I'm aware of this and will work hard toward letting go of the hurt. Anyone have any suggestions as to how? I've made a list of the awful things he's done, which helps me not want him. I already don't want him, though. But I need to not be hurt any more by him. I need to truly let go.
The last thing to hold onto
Wow
I think just the fact that
OMG
The list helps in the beginning
head and heart
Making a list of all he's
Hunter is right (of course)
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Do we have the same brother????
:)
LOBO