Hi everyone and a couple of updates

Hi and happy new year everyone!

Some interesting things have happened that I wanted to share since I was last here, and I'm definitely going to need some help again, though I've been doing pretty well.

First of all, I met someone about a year after the narc and I finally broke up, and he and I have been seeing each other about six months. He's really nice, divorced with three girls, we have a wonderful time together though we live about an hour and a half apart. His wife cheated on him many times, so he understands a lot of what I've gone through with the narc (more on this later), but there are difficulties, too, with my trust issues and general relationship qualms. Anyway, that I was able to actually fall in love with another man and truly put the narc out of my heart and soul is something I never thought would happen, and when the people on here would tell me it would someday, I didn't believe it was possible. So first of all, I'm here to say: it can happen to you.

Second of all, the narc has reappeared a number of times. After I found out about all the women, he didn't speak to me again for almost a year. He would cross the street if he saw me, and he told his son to not speak to my daughters ever again (even though they thought of each other as siblings, so sad), as if it was our fault.

Then, on the first day of school last fall, he stopped me on the street in the morning and said, “Why are you doing this to us when you know I love you?” I just looked at him like the lunatic he is and walked away. He kept at me for several weeks, texting me and calling me until I finally said, “What do you want? Do you want to meet me somewhere to talk?” And do you know what he said? The flipping psycho narc?

“About what?”

Classic.

So I guess what I’m saying is that they are never gone. No matter how much you stop loving them. No matter how much you publicly humiliate them. They always come back for more. I think that all that attention I gave him, even so much of it negative attention, he got off on in such a big way, and he feels there must be more of it where that came from, you know? He just has to keep trying until he gets there.