He's lashing out...

haven't posted much but needing feedback. Due to his lashing out a few weeks ago I had to literally pack everything I had left in our house on mothers day when he was at work (he's a cop), he was getting mad at me saying when I was moving other things out i had gotten "shit" on his uniforms, taken a kitchen knife that wasn't mine, etc...all bs. He was threatening to change locks and unplug the garage door. So I literally packed everything, minus a chair I didn't want, book shelf, cabinet, weights, weight bench, and I left the dressers but took the dresser drawers. So at 6:30am the next day he sent me a text about how he wanted the dog crate me bought back (he doesn't have dogs, guessing the OW does) and the dresser drawers...I didn't answer tried to talk to his mom about getting my stuff out, and he told her to stay out of it so i ws forced to break NC for the first time in 2 or so weeks (since I left)...it of course turned into a debate so I told him to keep whatever I left and I'd ups the garage door opener. I cancelled the movers because he did change the locks and told me I wouldn't get in. Then the next day he said I could get my stuff then it was done...I didn't answer. Then the next day it was "is it done"...still didn't answer so today a week later i get:
"are you going to start being an adult and get this stuff or is it going to be like everything else in your life you don't follow through with"...i didn't answer. Then "that's right you won't answer cause then you'd have to deal with it"...still didn't answer.

I said what I had to...keep the stuff. I told him then he had moved on long before I left and to keep what i left, I could replace it, I had what I needed.
Guessing he was mad I beat him to the punch and got my stuff out before he could control the situation...my therapist said the longer I went NC the more angry he'd get.
So what's the deal he has NS and OW...that was evident...why the need to lash out at me?!?!?! Is it just that he doesn't have control??