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#1 Sep 10 - 11AM
rochkevin
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Hes gone again.

So, broke up with N almost 2 years ago. He met his new b/f and has split from him over 12 times now. Every time he splits with him, he moves back to my place. He only wants to be friends , but i buy food, he sits around and smokes weed all day, never does anything and thinks we should have sex when he feels like it.

Well, the well is dry. He left again to go back to his old b/f yesterday anf i am finally done with him. There is nothing left i can offer. He came and got what he needed too many times. Time to move on.

He has No life, no friends, no future, nothing...

delete, delete, delete...

I need prayers and good wishes that this person is gone for good so i can live my life N free...

Sep 24 - 5PM
Elena
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Abuse Cycle

People can only abuse us as much as we let them. I am sure you know how important it is not to let him come back again. When we continue to allow abusive people back, we keep the abuse cycle going, and no one can make it stop but ourselves. We must love ourselves enough to not open the door again. Recently my ex narc's sister contacted me to be her friend on Facebook, and she never was really a friend when I was married. I suspect she is interested in making a connection with me again because of her brother. What I heard lately is that it seems that he is single again, this means that he is looking for "supply" again. So it now makes sense why the sister is looking for me. We need to love ourselves and stay strong to keep that door closed. Best wishes.
Sep 24 - 5PM
rochkevin
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OK, he was back for 10 days

OK, he was back for 10 days then he is now gone again, Asked him to leave since he told me; he didnt want to be friends anymore, didnt want to be in public with me, didnt want to be in my life anymore, etc, etc, etc, So why be here anymore? He said he needed a place to live.... So he called his mom and moved back home. So this is the person that i was in a relationship with for 7 monthes. He left me, will be 2 years ago next month. He moved in with new b/f and has left him over 12 times now in 2 years. Last week cops were called at his place with b/f and b/f got hauled away for domestic assault, so he moved back to me... Im just out of thoughts. All the shit with him, verbal abuse, coming and going, him smoking weed all the time, he did finallyget a job, shocker!! but not sure how long he will keep it. NOt sure what to think anymore... Everyone says, N/C.... Online here, friends, family,... It has to be time to get off this roller coaster ride and live my life N free.... Thanks for letting me vent....
Sep 24 - 6PM (Reply to #9)
dulcinea441
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Yeah, the only way to

Yeah, the only way to get off the rollercoaster that is ruining your psychological (and possibly your physical) health is to go NC. It doesn't end the pain -- obviously that's a process that takes a while -- but it ends your being a source of supply (i.e., exploitation and abuse). I've been NC (my first and hopefully last bout) for a little over a week. Already my severe anxiety and heart palpitations have improved. My mental health is still in shambles, but the draining of my lifeblood has stopped, thank god.
Sep 10 - 11AM
Layla
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Answered prayers will start with YOU.

God has given you the heart and soul for feeling, and the brain for understanding. Oh! Such gifts! Use them! No more contact! I have added your name to my "prayer basket". And I offer you good wishes and friendship on this journey from the disordered ones. Be strong! You do not deserve to be used and abused by one of these! love~ Layla
Sep 10 - 11AM
Used
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rochkevin

as you know, i feel for you but you are the only one who can make him stay away for good, he is such a user..as mine was but i wouldnt hear a word againt him..ONCE...know i would join in....thinking of you..and that you will get to have a life of NARC FREE...it is possible..its hard but possible...xxx
Sep 24 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
whitneywolf
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(((rochkevin)))

(((rochkevin))) Hug & prayer on the way!
Sep 24 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
rochkevin
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THANKS!!! 8-)

THANKS!!! 8-)
Sep 24 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
WhiteSwan44
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rochkevin

Hugs! He sounds like a total user loser. Find your inner strength and maintain NC. Loser will eventually get your point. A friend of mine gave me some good advice. She told me if he calls or comes knocking at my door to tell him I have company. I tried it and took him completely off guard. He honestly didn't know how to respond! Take care of yourself and never let the loser invade your space again.
Sep 24 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
rochkevin
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It was interesting on friday

It was interesting on friday that he had called and i didnt answer until the 4th call. He was mad that i didnt answer right away and wanted to know what i was doing. He then was pissed and said i should change my plans that i had so i could take him to get his checked cashed. He said; "this is shitty, you picked a bad time to go hang with a friend." He then had to call 5 times when i was having lunch with a friend. I guess i was always there for him before and he thinks i will still be there for him now, even he move dback home. He did pay me some money that he owed me when he cashed his check.
Sep 25 - 4AM (Reply to #6)
WhiteSwan44
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rochkevin

My XN is like that. When I don't answer the phone when he calls, he'll rapid fire until he finally gets me. If he doesn't get hold of me he leaves me pathetic voicemails insinuating, how dare I have a life outside of him. I guess he thinks I live to cater to him. NO MORE. Guess he'll need to find some other poor soul to feed off of!